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16 year old girls body troubles
Hey there! I'm Laura and I'm 16 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now, and I'm emotionally prepared to have sex with him, though this question isn't completely about that. See, I have this problem where I can't get ANYTHING into my vagina. I first realized when I was 13 and tried to put a tampon in and couldn't get it in. I couldn't ask my mom how (she's very strictly religious and conservative and we don't talk about anything, she doesn't want to talk about my body and has made me uncomfortable talking about it. We kind of have a shit relationship which is why i came here with this issue), so i found some online tutorials. I still couldn't get it and it hurt very very bad, so I gave up. I used pads until I was 15 (at which point i tried tampons again and was once again in pain) and only masturbated clitorally, having tried to get my fingers in myself a few times but never succeeding. It began to worry me again last month when i was at my boyfriend's house getting hot and heavy and i realized we were getting pretty serious in our relationship and he asked me if i would like for him to buy condoms if i'm ready. i told him that i would like that but i wasn't sure if i would be able to. he's a very mature, progressive 16 year old boy, so i told him about my problem and he told me it was okay and that he or understood and that we could stick to just doing other things and it didn't bother him and so on and so forth. he really is a nice boy, but i'm going to want to have sex and use tampons at some point in my life, and when i turn 18 i'll have to start seeing a gyno yearly and i want to be able to have access to my own vagina before someone else tries. i've used diagrams and mirrors, so i'm fairly certain i'm in the right place, but no amount of lube or muscle relaxation or advice has helped at all. if anyone knows what my problem could be, insight would be greatly appreciated.
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Hi Laura. Yes its true as others have said that virgins can be quite tight. the vagina can over time learn to stretch and expand.
However, there is one instance in which practically nothing can fit in the vagina and that is if a teen has a septate hymen, micro hymen or any other that is considered a congenital anomalie. The hymen when normal is an extra ring of skin around the circumference of the vagina or around a half like moon shaped. These things are always discovered at the point teens need to begin using tampons and find they can't fit them in. Yes, tampons are tighter at first but if you can't even fit in a finger at all, there is something wrong. If you are getting a period flow, then obviously there is a hole of some size enough for the flow to pass through. But it may be too small to fit anything else so yes, its best to get this done now. You definitely won't want any guy trying to even gently push his way in cus if there is a problem with the hymen, it won't give enough to tear into a big enough opening and the pain I've heard someone tell was like having a stabbing pain. If this is your situation, there is nothing you can do but tell mom you can't wear tampons cus there's something wrong with your hymen and she can get you to see a Dr. You can wait and put it off but if this is not just virgin tightness but an birth anomaly, then a Dr. would have to fix it. Most people don't talk about subjects like this so it is seldom known of but in todays time, is happening more often with young females discovering some real issues with their hymen. Check out this site link and show it to Mom too. If you don't want to go to a Dr if this is not your problem, you may want to have your Mom take a look for herself. Better her if theres no problem than going to Dr. to find out. The diagrams should give her a good idea of what to look for. If pen drawings don't help, there are plenty of real life photos of the anatomy with those issues if you need to check. Good luck.
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You appear to have a very tight vagina or at least the muscles of your vagina have not relaxed enough. By age 15 you should have matured enough that your vaginal muscles have relaxed enough to accept a tampon or fingers.
Since you are 16 you may take advantage of a federal known as HIPPA. When Congress passed this law they were thinking of young adults just like you who could not discuss issues like this with their parents.
Within the HIPPA law is a section that allows any teenager, male or female, to seek out help from medical professionals in regards to their reproductive system without the knowledge or permission of a parent.
You may go to any women's clinic, doctors office or hospital emergency room and be examined, ask any question you would like answers to without mom knowing or being able to find out why you were there. This section of HIPPA gives you full medical confidentiality when it comes to your reproductive system. Only you can release the information by written authorization to your doctor and you cannot be forced to do so.
Therefore I suggest you make an appointment a gynecologist for an examination. While there discuss with the Doctor the vaccine for Human papilloma virus (HPV) and ask any questions you may have. The doctor will also instruct you on how to insert a tampon if you ask. I would think you would be more comfortable with a female doctor and this is your choice.
When you check in for the appointment remind the doctor you are there under the HIPPA law of medical Confidentiality. You will need your health insurance information. If you know the name of the health insurance company and who the primary insured is; either mom or dads work insurance, their social security number you can get this information from the insurance company website.
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Hi! Dr.D here. Body issues huh? Dont worry! This is normal. Virgin women tend to be very tight in that area. And so before there is sexual intercourse, it is often that nothing will go in. But I promise you, a penis can get in. Unless you skipped a period. sometimes if mysteriously a period is skipped, it can be the beginning of a blood clot in the vagina, if that is the case, your gonna want to visit your local doctor to either prescribe you with anti-deoxite pills, or a quick and harmless procedure.
Have a nice day!
-Dr.D :-)
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