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i have decided to remain childless forever i don't have any plans for parenthood and i don't want a relationship to lead me to parenthood also never treat not having children like it's bad thing becuase it's not and i will stay out of a relationship if it leads me to parenthood i have decided that i never want to have kids i don't need any to complete my life and i'm not jealous of people who have kids.
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This is a statement, not a question. So I am wondering why you sent it to me. If you simply want my opinion even if you've made up your mind, that is fine. However, if you are asking for an opinion, you may not be 100% sure of whether you might cave in the future.
For what its worth, I know of a young married couple who both did not want to have kids. The biggest hassle for the gal was finding a doctor who would do the medical procedure of tying her tubes so she couldn't conceive. Her husband also had a vasectomy done. And they are happy. Their reasons for no children were not due to the belief the planet is overpopulated. They simply did not like the idea of kids tying them down. They preferred to be free to do what ever they wished at the drop of a hat. They are a bit older now and still do not regret it. The female has always felt awkward around children and babies and does not feel drawn to them, even if the kids belong to someone else. I actually applaud people who know they don't want to be parents and don't feel its selfish as some may say, to not want to be tied down with kids. I have a family member who from the very beginning of birthing a child, did not have natural nurturing instincts and did not have time for the child. It progressed worse to after marrying a 3rd time to a guy who is pretty messed up, they had a kid together also and now both children have been taken away by CPS due to their physical abusing of both children. So some people just plain old don't make good parents and never should have had kids. I know all these situations occur in life, and other than abusing/neglecting kids, personal choices such as having kids are just fine. Actually, for some, its not even a choice. For some, its something of their make up, how they were born, just as one knows their gender regardless of their sex, I believe some just know they are not parent material.
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