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Is he thinking something else towards me?
Hi, I was only wondering and trying to figure out what does it mean when a guy says if you were my partner I would have taught you how to cook those dishes so that you could cook for me everyday. And I said how about a help that makes you lazy he replied no I'm a traditional boy and smiled. Well we both smiled. I said I would prefer a little help. At the moment we're chatting along about all the foreign dishes over our lunch break at college. He's a good lad easy going plus he says to me you're a special girl (mentions my name). So how does he sound to you? Appreciate all the answers.
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Guys don't always know how to talk to girls. So sometimes for lack of what to say, they'd pick up on something you or someone else said or what you were doing at the time or recently. Pretty much they can grasp at anything to blurt out something so they aren't sitting there tongue-tied. Even a non shy guy can have difficulty holding normal convo's with a girl. What he said could be the result of fumbling for something to say. If I take apart what he said, you'll see why I don't see it making any sense.
" if you were my partner" (no problem with that. He could be talking about the future and what he would do regarding if you were his partner) " I would have taught you how to cook those dishes" would have taught is past tense, meaning the opportunity to teach you has passed and is not going to happen ever. This makes no sense when first half of sentence is talking in future tense. Future and past in that sentence, cancel out each other in my mind and make absolutely no sense.)
"so that you could cook for me everyday." (Back to present tense again here. If talking of the past it would have been stated as 'you could have cooked for me'. Then present or past tense, just the words make one wonder what he really meant. If he is stating that he knows how to cook, and wants to teach you, that could be a plan of his, to find a partner someday who would take equal turns with the cooking or they could do it together. But he could also come from a family raised to believe the womans' place is in the home, or that it is the womans' responsibility to do all the cooking, especially if he wants a woman to cook for him everyday. Or perhaps he simply had no idea what to say next and really fumbled it, not realizing that what he said came out sounding chauvinistic. Then you comment about that making him lazy but his reply is "No, I'm a traditional boy." Well then, there is only the question of what he thinks traditional means and what he really meant by that. It would clearly seem that by that statement he is old world, old fashioned, which if you are, is okay, if you don't mind being a housewife and baby maker only. If you have plans for more than that in life, then keep this in mind in case he ever decides to even ask you out on a date. As far as calling you special, I have called many people special during my lifetime and most of them were not guys I wanted to date or marry. So just saying 'special' does not have special meaning unless you know what he meant by special. Next time he says so, you could say, "YOu say that alot to me. I am finally curious as to why you say that. What things are there about me, that make you feel I am special?" You just might get the answer to your question you asked us, answered by him. So after dissecting what he said, I still am not sure if he is thinking something else towards you other than just a fellow student and just passing the time in conversation. It really shouldn't matter if you have no attraction to him romantically. And he's said nothing direct like will you be my girlfriend yet. You have no worries or decisions until he clearly says something like that to you.
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