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SO, WHY'D HE SAY THIS TOO ME????
so, I gave my crush my number early this week...I said f it im gonna go for it, so I did...well he called me that same night, we talked on the phone for an hour, laughing, nice convo...well I seen him two days later and he came up behind me patted me on the back and said you're a good girl, smiled at me and walked away...ok...wtf...like wtf do men want, a slut bucket with no brains, a chic with a bunch of kids...cuz im am totally confused......I may be diff as in blunt and outspoken, have some morals, values, self respect, im not the run up and down the street, clubby type, i got too work, take care of what i need too, I don't ask anyone for anything etc....I like being at home that's cuz ive grown up etc but that really shouldn't intimidate a man or a guy who calls himself a man....can someone help me out with this......thanks
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I'm unclear as to what he could have meant by what he said and I think the only person who may even know what he was on about so might be an idea to ask him. If you have his number then you can always try texting him to ask him or alternatively when you speak to him on the phone again just ask him what he meant.
I will say though that if he in fact was referring to the way you came across after talking on the phone and was just expecting you to be some slut who will throw themselves at him then he's not worth the bother. Having self respect, values and morals is not a bad thing and in all honesty in the long term it would serve you better. Sometimes girls will act like sluts with no brains because it's what the guy wants and they believe it is the best way to get the guy. I don't think any person should have to lower their own self worth for the sake of getting a person to like them. Be true to who you are and if he doesn't like it, to hell with him - guys like him come by the dozens.
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I can't tell you what he meant by his comment. You'd have to ask him.
But I think I understand the majority of men pretty well. They want a female for girlfriend/wife who is both the nice girl but the wild fun sexpot when in private.
There will be guys who only want the wild sexy gal and don't care about anything else deeper like her personality and who she is on the inside.
And there will be guys who assume that Nice and quiet is all there is to a gal and fail to see anything more.
I am not saying that to be fun and exciting for a guy that you dress slutty all the time, go to clubs, get drunk. If a guy wants an 'easy lay' he wouldn't be giving you any attention but you'd see him going after those types. Those guys are too shallow for me.
Cultivate your humor. Let natural comedy and laughter become something you do at times to spice things up. Men and women love to have a partner who can make them really laugh. I use phrases or words that are sexual innuendo's to keep my guy's interest, sometimes using such language that is totally out of character for me. Wear what is normal for you most the time, but at home or in private with him, wear something you know will catch a guys eye, a deeper neckline, tighter butt fitting pants, and when away from home wear the sexy underwear under your work clothes or average weekend clothes. Compliment your guy and let him know what you appreciate about him. This is often an area that us females tend to forget to do and guys need the attention and appreciation like the rest of us. Flirt and touch him when you can. When we are out shopping, I tend to walk next to him resting my hand at the bottom of his spine where the back takes a dip. I loving caressing that spot and tell him how much I like that every once in a while besides just doing it. Write love notes, and leave them where he can find them or text such messages to him. I had an old boyfriend do that to me, letting me knowing he was thinking of me during the day while I was at work and at the end says, thinking of you as the Goddess you are and can't wait to hold a nude Goddess and many other similar texts. I know that men like to hear the same in return. Giving a guy your number is just the start and there is lots more to add in for him to see and experience as time goes on. You are already an exciting girl for being blunt and outspoken. Let him hear things from you that shake up his idea that you may only be a nice girl without a wild side to you.
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