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A guy mate started to call me sweetheart recently, Duh?
Hello, what's my guy mate trying to say? am I reading or thinking too much? Very recently, he's started to call me sweetheart, sweetie pie and darling in our months friendship. He mentions and says, 'you're my friend' at least twice when we meet up and having a chat. Now I'm aware that it could be normal but I so want to know the view from u all. I do fancy him though. Thanks for the answers. Cheers!
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I agree with Dragonflymagic. Do you get a chance to see with other females? Clearly, if all of them he is familiar with are 'sweetheart' or 'darling' etc then it almost certainly has no significance that you are 'sweetheart' as well. Here in the UK a lot of born-and-bred London guys use such terms as "Alright, darling?" and "Cheers, sweetheart" all the time even as a greeting and a parting comment between a shop salesman and a female customer who have never even met before. Anyone from schoolgirls to old-age pensionners are equally likely to be 'sweetheart'! Re-iterating your 'friendship' may be to affirm it in his own mind or reassure himslef that you consider him as your own friend. Once more, frequency of use is the key to determining the significance. Some people always like to repeatedly get this affirmation/reassurance and use it a lot. Is he the 'everybody's mate' type? Or typically more reserved?
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For a guy to address a female that way means one of two things.....either he really likes you and wants a romantic relationship, not just friends, OR.......He is the type of male who uses these words when speaking to ALL females and it doesn't mean he is into them, it is just his way of speaking due to his personality. If you think such a thing doesn't exist, my husband is one of those and a manager at the fast food place I work is another, addressing each one of us as Sugar or Sweetie and he's a wonderful manager and as I am older and have had a life of experience in being able to tell if a man is hitting on me or not, in his case, it is not. I will admit that there are not many guys who will talk this way for fear of being misunderstood or upsetting a gal. I tend to think a male who does this is a gentle, sweet natured person and lets say, a man who is comfortable in his own skin. I do not know which of these your male friend may be. So the best thing you can do since he hasn't been like this all the time in the past and only recently, is to ask him why he has changed how he addresses you. If you don't get a straight answer from him, then if it were me, I'd ask if using these kinds of words is his way of trying to let me know that he doesn't want to be "just friends" anymore but move on to a romantic, intimate relationship. If he says yes, then go for it, but don't assume that he has decided you're the one for him for the rest of his life. It takes more than sweet words to prove one is in love with someone. IT takes action and you will know it by the type of actions he takes and I am not talking about just buying you gifts, but is he proud to be seen with you. Does he want to introduce you to friends and family? Does he do special errands for you that you could have done yourself? Is he acting supportive of your interests and complimenting you, taking a real interest in what is important to you to mention a few. If you'd rather not ask, then just enjoy what you have without knowing if it means anything. Or you could have some fun and if you've never addressed him that way before, then try it using whatever sounds good to you in commenting to a male, like Hi Honey, You bet Sugar, Whatcha doing Boyfriend, etc. Throw a lot of it at him to see how he reacts. He may take this as encouragement if he's into you and he will naturally ease into a relationship of something more without actually having to ask you to be his girlfriend or clarify it for you. If you want clarification, then ask what he means by it since he changed how he is lately and don't go for any smoke screen answers but keep rephrasing your question until you get a straight answer. Good luck.
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