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Hello all, what does it mean when a guy who I know for a month says you're my friend and we should stay in touch. Why is he saying that? We joke and I reckon he teases me loads but more like makes fun of me. Why? Please help? Cheers!
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Guys who like girls often tease them or make jokes as a way of breaking tension and to gain your attention. It's never meant to be hurtful but if it crosses into that territory let him know as tBy asking for you to stay in touch and that he considers you a friend he's letting you know he values you and likes you. All is okay and teenage boys are weird.
He just can't directly come out to you with how he feels or so he thinks. Perhaps asking him how he really feels will get him to be truthful and you can go from there. The question is do you like him? If so, than this may be rather easy if you both admit you feel the same way or that you aren't interested on that level.
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Just by the words alone, one can't tell what a person is thinking and if there's a 2nd hidden meaning to what they say. Generally, guys don't play word games. However, the words they choose to communicate by are always more clear to other males, but seem so foreign to females. So when in doubt, I always suggest rephrasing in your own words what they said to be sure.
Such as : You mean friend as in being on the same level as your male buddies, right?"
And for the 2nd part, "When you say we should stay in touch, does that mean you want to be able to contact me by phone or email, or that you want me to contact you?
If you have plenty of people to chat with and don't want another person who is strictly just a chat buddy, then let him know. I've done that. I'd say, "You know, I have a lot of people who like to just chat with me on line but hardly anyone who wants to actually get together in person to go do fun things together as just friends. So if you only want to chat on line or text, don't be surprised if I don't always seem eager to do so."
This is the guys chance to say that they'd like to contact you only to set up times to get together for a movie night, or go on a walk, or whatever. Keep in mind, girls and guys both can have friends of the opposite sex and it doesn't mean anything more.
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