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My best friend is always starting fights
so last year I met my best friend and we got closer over the summer. But when school started, she was always getting mad at me. Like when we had running club, and i cut my foot, she got mad at me for not running. We ended up not talking for several days. We then got over it and were fine for a couple of weeks. It got worse and worse and she was getting mad at me for really simple things. Well last week she got mad at me for staying home from school because of an asthma attack. On Monday she ended our friendship, but then the next day I wasn't really talking to her and she asked me why i was acting weird. I finally realized how she really is because shes always hurting me and making me cry. I just don't want to end our friendship because she is the most amazing friend(besides being mean)and we are so alike. And when we're not fighting, we get along so well. What should I do? Also I'm 14 years old and I live in the US
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I would say this is purely a matter of dynamics. Some people react rather explosively, as you might say to a situation which is not to their liking. They fire-off like a loose cannon. The volley of shots often serves to 'clear the air' to their satisfaction. It's done and over, and they see no reason why the friendship should not resume on it's previous footing afterwards. Others seek a more sedate and considered way to resolve differences. Let's talk about it, let me look at both sides of the argument and reach a considered verdict. No volley of cannon-balls flying about, thank you! Both have their merits and de-merits. The 'considered opinion' once made is hard to change. The volatile prson changes their opinion like the weather. It's seldom 'written in stone'. The more reasonable person may simulate, fake if you like, understanding and acceptance while storing-up silent resentment and annoyance. Which will one day emerge! We basically have to take our friends as we find them. Your friend, as you say is a good friend. OK. She tends to call out the heavy artillery when there is a difference of opinion. But once the smoke has died down, she's that same old good friend again. It's 'they way she is' and that's the end of it. She might mellow a bit in time. Meanwhile, have your bullet-proof vest handy at all times mate!
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