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Impress me??!
Hi there, why would a guy friend say, 'he was trying to impress me actually trying hard to impress me but yet he jokes around a lot as usual??? He's doing this because he likes me??! Thank u all!
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I think the question you need to ask yourself first before anything I say, is whether you like him only as a friend, have wondered if there could be something more in the future, or if you already have romantic feelings towards him and are trying to find hope in what he says and does that he feels the same.
Words can be mistaken and I could be too here, but this could mean several things. Maybe he values your opinion as a friend and is hungry for people to compliment him and notice his talents and or efforts and doesn't get that much in life. So he may have resorted to point out that he is trying to impress you just to get some positive feedback. If thats not part of who you are and your personality, then he is not going to get that from you.
On the other hand, he may at some point if not in the beginning, begun to see you as more than a friend, falling for you but is afraid to broach the subject of declaring anything that is so black and white as 'I have romantic feelings for you and i want to date you." So he says it in a way, using his usual humorous joking ways so just in case you don't feel the same way as him, then there are no awkward moments if you feel he was not serious, just teasing or pulling your leg, just joking.
I don't know if you meant to ask if he's doing this because he likes you or whether he has explained to you that he is doing this because he likes you. It is actually a very normal thing for two people to want to impress each other, not only couples, but best friends, and even children with their parents, or employees with their boss. It feels good to be recognized for our good action or traits and that is a way to be supportive of another person.
If he says he is trying to impress you but is doing nothing at all that you find impressive, then perhaps, even as just a friend, this will never be a friend that you end up being the closest of buddies with/besties.
If you are interested in exploring whether the two of you can make the transition from friends to more, then heres a good way to bring up the subject without making it an awkward situation for either of you.
Heres what to say:
"YOu and I have been friends for a long time and get along so well together. It makes me wonder if we could do as well if we were more than friends. I would be willing to give it a try if you are."
This statement isn't one to pin him for one kind of answer only. Those are situations that guys will shy away from for fear of hurting the girl if he doesn't feel anything more than friends. If you can be brave enough to ask (if interested) then he will surely answer the question, as long as he knows you're okay with either answer and then you would know whether to proceed with him or not. And if he is willing to date, then a good thing is to ask him out. Don't wait for him to go first as there are some men who actually wait for the woman to make the first move but don't tell them. Thats my 2nd husband, I had to be the first to kiss him and go for more. But once I started, he was more than willing having already said in so many ways that he was very interested in me. Hope this helps you.
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