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Confused with the guy mate
Hi all, could anyone explain if the guy mate says, 'you're nice, very nice' but also assures and says, he's not flirting with the laugh...? What's he trying to say? Compliment and a laugh. I don't get it. Cheers all!
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When someone says anything to me I don't understand, and you will get this in life not just from friends and lovers but family, co workers, boss, etc. the best thing I have found is to rephrase what you think they said in order to get your questions answers right on the spot. Don't wait. You can still bring this up saying "I was just thinking about what you said the other day..." and then launch into a rephrase and ask questions.
Here's an example: Thank you for the compliment.
( if you want clarification as I would what he meant by 'very nice' then ask) So may I ask what exactly about my personality is it that you find so very nice, unless you were instead simply referring to how I look? ( You should get a good clarification with that. When he's done if you want to know about the laugh, I think it depends now on whether you are single and available or dating someone else already, and perhaps whether you are hetero or gay. I don't know that part of your situation so its hard to tell. Either he simply wanted to compliment you sincerely but not want you to think he was trying to steal you from a boyfriend if you are straight or gay, or if he's straight and you're gay, he may have laughed to cover up that he was nervous to clarify that he wasn't flirting. Or he could have been really flirting but quickly said what he did and laughed to cover up his true feelings of being drawn to you that way. A nervous laugh is what people will do if covering up a truth, or not sure of how something they said will be taken. He may have been compulsive in his own mind and spoken when he shouldn't so immediately the no flirting statement with a laugh. If you want to know if he meant anything by it, you will just have to find a way to ask.
If you aren't sure about the laugh and what it meant, think of the last time you watched a good comedian on stage. They will poke fun at the weird things people do usually from their own life and observing as much as one can the lives of others. But when put into a humorous light, even if its something too embarrassing for an individual to own up to, a person will laugh heartily or nervously if the comedious jab hit home with them and often its your friend or mate with you who begins looking at you laughing or punching you in the arm cus they know this is true of you. People laugh at the truth even if its something they find hard to own up to, or are easily embarrassed or feel awkward about. So he may have been embarassed to have shared how he felt through a sincere compliment, or there could be another reason he laughed, afraid of making you upset, or something else. Remember in the future to rephrase and ask questions and its easy to say, I need some clarifying on what you said. Did you mean ......
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