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How to be more attractive?
I just want to feel feel pretty sometimes. So basically back in December my friend and I were walking around a mall and some guy came up to her and said "hey sweetness" which is slang for "hey beautiful" I just shrugged it off because in high school all the guys used to chase her and I was always the invisible friend pushed to the side. So last Friday that same friend and another girl and I went to a different mall and we saw a group of guys. Long story short those guys followed us throughout the whole mall but I know If my pretty friend wasn't there they wouldn't have bothered. So my friend tested it by waving at one of them and the guy nearly had a heart attack and he was basically walking backwards watching her leave after waving back. So then my other friend she was dressed nice was saying those guys were coming for her and my pretty friend and didn't even acknowledge me at all. I'm used to it though so I didn't say anything. So I just need some tips to look more attractive, here's a description on how I look,so I'm 18 but I have a baby face so people sometimes mistake me for 13 I want to start wearing makeup but I need a job first cause I can't really afford makeup right now. There's nothing wrong with my body it's on the curvy side but I cover it up with baggy clothes because when I don't, guys approach me and I already know it's for the wrong reasons. One time I was wearing a maxi skirt and a guy cat called me from his car and then when I turned around he had a look of shock when he saw my face and quickly sped away. Anyways my friend she wears makeup and she's curvy as well but she was wearing her winter jacket, so was I so you couldn't see either of our shapes. The difference with the both of us that we're both black but she's light skinned like Rihanna and I'm dark skinned like Kelly Rowland and if you look online you can see dark skinned black girls go through a lot of struggles. I was hit on back in September wearing my baggy clothes by some guy but I turned him down cause I was 17 at the time and he looked about 20 (I turned 18 in December) and he was also an international student so even though we both go to the same school we would be culturally different
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I would say adviceman49 has hit the nail on the head. Maximise your positives, and eliminate the negatives! How about checking out some life-style magazines (there are so many!) and/or some all-out fashion publications like Harpers, Vogue and Cosmopolitan. Who's built like you? Who has that youthful (very much in demand, whoever heard a woman say she wished she looked older??) face? How do they dress? How do they make-up? Which do you admire? Forget all about looking 'easy' or 'slutty' and all that rubbish. How do those girls actually look? The word is SENSATIONAL! Not every guy who cat-calls or wolf-whistles you is gonna even get close, is he? You've sussed that some guys are just oppotunists and punters and you keep them at arm's length, by the sound of it? Of course, when you spot one who's making all the right moves, showing some potential, and thinking you might want to get to know him a little better? You're well placed, looking great and you know it! Naturally it's important if or when a relationship comes about that you click on many different levels. But that visual attraction is and will nearly always be our first 'point of contact'. The thing that makes us want to know more. Go on. Knock 'em dead!
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So your on the curvy side that you hide under baggy clothes. Well that is one reason you don't get hit on your hiding your best assets Having a baby face is not a liability it is really an asset but it takes some proper hair styling to make it an asset. Makeup on a dark skinned black girl is something you need to be careful with. TO much or the wrong makeup and you will send the wrong message.
What you need is a complete makeover from what you wore and who you were in high school. This is an obtainable if you remember that Rome was not built in a day. It is going to take time and money to do it write. Your present clothing will be fine for when you are not looking to make an impression or just hanging out at home. It may even be fine for work depending on what type of job you get as office romances are never good.
I would start by seeking out a good hair stylist and asking for help with a hairstyle that will enhance your facial features while playing down the baby face. I'm thinking he or she will probably suggest a style that frames your face somewhat.
Next when you can afford the proper makeup for a dark skinned black woman; seek out the help of a cosmetologist. You will probably find one working in a major department store such as Macy's and Nordstrom's' in the cosmetics department. They work on commission so there advice and the help they give you in showing you how to use the makeup to your best advantage is free.
Last is clothing. You want clothing that sends the right message. You have a baby face so you are going to need your clothing to send the right message and to fit properly because of your curvy body. Your hairstyle, your clothes, your demeanor all send a message. When you want to attract someone you need to dress to kill so to speak. In your case you need to dress up to look older which means slightly longer hem lines. Not baggy clothing but nothing skin tight either.
As I said to begin with this will take time. I assume you still live at home rent free so you don't have that to worry about. Don't be in a rush to move out as living at home rent free is to your advantage once you have an income. When you do set up a budget. Set aside something for clothing, makeup and hairstyling as well as something for savings. Setting aside something for saving is very important even if it is $5.00 a week that is $20 a month or $250.00 a year. You also budget for entertainment and emergencies. At the end of the month if you have
funds left over put half in into savings and the rest into your emergency funds.
Should you do as I am suggesting not only will you look and feel better. You will have the basics of budgeting that will help you for the rest of your life as well as some basics in goal setting.
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