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i need advice: i am scared that he will say NO!
okay there is this boy at my school and i really like him but if i ask him out i am scared that he will say NO! help me !
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rainhorse68 has the right idea. Also you cannot allow yourself to be paralyzed by fear. The longer you allow fear to control you it will eventually hold you back from obtaining any goals you may set for yourself.
Fear is designed to protect us from getting hurt both physically and emotionally. when fear grabs hold think about what is scaring you. If you can't be physically hurt by what is causing you to be afraid then say to yourself; "Nothing ventured nothing gained," and move forward with whatever it is you want or need to do.
Most of the time it is rejection that we fear. No one likes to be rejected. In almost every instance when you get a rejection it is not you they are rejecting but the idea or concept you are proposing.
This includes the boy you like. I don't know how well you know him. I don't know your ages either. There may be many reasons he would say no to a date none of which have anything to do with you. He could be involved, if you are young teens he may not be allowed to date or he could have other plans for when you wish to date.
It would be nice if he said, "Gee it's nice of you to ask and I would love to if I didn't have other plans or I'm involved with someone. Here again it depends on his level of maturity as to how he will respond.
If he does reject you do not take it personally unless he says so. Just scratch him off the list and move on to the next guy. As my mother would tell you there are plenty of fish in the sea. Bait your hock and keep fishing.
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This is one of those occasions where 'everybody else' says just ask, if you don't you'll never know, etc etc. But that doesn't really help, eh? You're still nervous as a kitten and full of anxiety! I'm afraid it really is the case though, and the quicker you do the better. Firstly because fears feed on themselves and get bigger, it gets harder the longer you wait. And secondly, if it is the dreaded 'thanks, but no thanks' the quicker you can move on and line-up another cute/hot/cool looking guy in your sights! I'll add one thing. You CANNOT mess it up, however awkwardly you pop that question and there's no right or wrong time either. If he's not that keen, then however well timed and slick your delivery is, it won't cut any ice. If he's keen (maybe just dying for an opportunity himself) then however badly you do it he'll be on it like a shot anyhow, and arranging that first date on the spot. Just go for it mate. Quite often us guys need a bit of a push, as you might say. Good luck. If he turns you down, put on your best outfit, do your make-up and go out and party with the girls and forget all about him. Good luck. X
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