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How to be super confident even though you're ugly?
I am BEYOND ugly. Every time I look in mirror, I see this hideous monster looking back at me. Please don't try to tell me that I'm not ugly or ugly doesn't exist, because that's genuinely not what I'm looking for. I'm truthfully NOT fishing for someone to tell me I'm not ugly "even though they can't see me."
Instead, I'm searching for detailed answers telling me how I can be SUPER confident IN being ugly and seeing my ugliness as uniquely beautiful? :)
Thank you.
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Eleanor Roosevelt was born of a beautiful mother, but she herself was incredibly ugly. She even acknowledged she was unattractive. However, that didn't keep her from marrying and achieving many monumental successes throughout her life.
The way you see yourself is shaped by forces that have very little to do with reality. Beauty standards are contradictory and ever-changing. They tend to reflect imbalances of power: racism, ageism and sexism. When you have a negative thought about your own looks, ask: what is making me feel this way?
When you hear yourself getting down on yourself, stop. Treat yourself the way you would treat a beloved friend. Would you call your friend "ugly" or criticize her? Would you think about her looks all the time?
You may feel better about your life and yourself if you are doing something that you really love to do. Take some time to think about what you are passionate about and remember that Beauty and attractiveness are not the same thing. Attraction is the force that draws others to you. Being typically beautiful can contribute to make someone attractive. However, many other qualities create attraction such as Intelligence, kindness, confidence, health, and humor.
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Okay I won't tell you that you are beautiful though you can be or at least pretty.
First beauty has two parts. A person can be outwardly gorgeous and be the ugliest person you've ever met. Why, because they either have no personality or a very ugly one. You see outward features and personality go hand in hand.
For the record I have never met a truly ugly person. I have had a friend, a woman, that one could call homely if you didn't know her. If you knew her she was a very warm and beautiful person. As for outer beauty she did her best to work with what she had and when she, her husband me and my wife would go out for the evening she was much less homely looking. I know from experience when my wife dresses to kill, which is for me that it takes time and is something she can't do on a daily basis. Neither can my friend.
Let's start with outer beauty. As I said you work with what you have. You don't say if your a guy or a gal. Which ever you start with hair. Get a hairstyle that complements. If your a gal find a cosmetologist to help you with makeup to complement your bet features. If your a guy try growing a short beard.
If you can get more comfortable with your outer features your inner self, the real you will come out better. Remember one thing from all of this please. Beauty is truly only skin deep. Who we are resides just below the surface. Generally we do not bring home to meet our parents the dumb blonde or the GO male model also an air head. The person we bring home has personality the matches ours.
If you think your ugly or you feel ugly then that is the personality you will project. In psychological terms it is called poor self-esteem. This is what you need to work on. No one is truly ugly inside. If need be get some professional help from a psychologist to rebuild the self-esteem you one had.
This is my advice I hope it helps.
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