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I made a huge mistake
Hi.. 18/F
I made a huge mistake. Please don't judge me. My cousin(also 18) and I have never been really close until a while ago when we started to hang out. After a while I started developing feeling for him but I didn't tell him because maybe it was just us getting close that I'm not used to. A few nights back we started making sexual jokes and the convention fot a bit heated but then he stopped it. I thought it was a joke. Last night it got a bit sexual again and I asked him if this was a joke and he said no. So we ended up sending each other photos. Afterwards we felt really guilty. I know it was a mistake but how do I stop feeling guilty, help him stop feeling guilty and restore our relationship? Please help me?
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Hi,
I acknowledge you for being so open and realization is the first step to being receptive.
Guilt takes you no where! It makes life stagnant for you. You create your own prison and look for the keys outside.So, stop feeling guilty right NOW.
What you share above is,something happened...that's your past. It cannot be reversed. Now, you have 2 choices, either be a victim to it or be a winner by elevating your relationship, such that you are proud of it.
So, delete the past by looking at the whole thing, as a bad movie trailer and not going for a bad movie but creating your own inspiring story. The two of you are capable enough to inspire each other to live a life of happiness and love, that makes other cousins, brothers or sisters to have a healthy and happy relation like yours.
A mistake is only a mistake if you don't rise up and do something about it.
Committed to your healthy happy life!
Love,
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I know how your feeling as I once had a very strong sexual attraction to an older cousin, by 18 months, of mine. To be honest I think we both know to this day that the attraction is still there but as we have gotten older we have gotten wiser and we hide it well. It doesn't help matters that my cousin is also beauty queen beautiful.
Senior prom for me. My girlfriend at the time went to a different high school who's prom was the same night. We agreed to go with safe dates to are own proms. We both went with cousins
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How close did we get? We got close really close third base close in motel room(s)prearranged for the purpose of sex. I won't draw you a picture let's just say there was very little clothing guarding the gates when our better judgment prevailed and we got dressed and left.
We went to an all night diner to talk. We admitted to each other that we were more than infatuated with each other and admitted we almost went to far that night. We talked for a long time and realized that where we were sitting in the diner talking to each other and being each other's closest confidant is as far as our relationship could ever go.
My suggestion is you two do as we did and that is to talk to each other. Admit where your feelings for each other are at. Once your feelings for each other are out in the open between you it will be easier to discuss them and come to an understanding as just what you can be to each other and with each other without crossing the bounties of civilized society.
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