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How long did it take for you to make friends in College/University?
It's about to be my second semester and I still haven't made any friends and it's starting to really effect my mental health. I went to my schools orientation week long story short thanks to my strict parents I only went to 3 of the 10 days so all the friendships I made failed because I basically just disappeared. Then school started in all my classes nobody really talks because they're so focused on the lectures so it's hard to make friends in classes. The friends I did make though are only classmates, we always sit together but none of us know each other's names and I'm pretty sure once the course is over (full year) we'll never talk to each other again, I've tried telling them my name multiple times but they don't really care. I wanted to join a club but because of my schedule I don't really have time to add a club to it, since I'm a commuter I go to school for class then when they're done I take the bus home and repeat. I even tried making friends on my schools freshmen Facebook page, long story short the friends I made ditched me after meeting me in person and would always blow me off. So I figured if they wanted to be friends with me I shouldn't be the only one making an effort. I wouldn't be this sad about any of this but I realized I don't have any friends at all, all the friends I thought I had in high school were those friends where we only talked about school and now that we don't go to the same school anymore there's no point. Then some of my friends don't even text me at all unless I text them so I feel like I'm bothering them. The only person who tries reaching out to me only calls me to talk about her boyfriend, she doesn't really care about my well-being so I don't consider her a friend tbh. This whole winter break I haven't hung out with anyone and it just sucks meanwhile on snapchat I see everyone hanging out with people everyday. I don't even know why I have a phone if the only people that text me are my parents, so my question is how long did it take you make friends in college or university? (I feel like it would be easier to make friends if I lived on residence) I tried telling my parents I don't have any friends, it's even gotten to the point where on my one hour break from class I would call my dad to talk to him on the phone which I wouldn't normally do. Btw I'm an 18 year old female
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Hey there, don't feel do bad about yourself. Unfortunately this seems to be the way a lot of people in our age range are now. I'm a little older than you, but I'm starting my second semester at my current college after transferring from my original college (having done a year there).
I've also run into this issue, classmates not wanting to talk outside of class, people in clubs only talking with me while we're in the club together, and overall just not having any friends who actually want to hang out. Oh and I DO live on campus.
I think the issue is that neither of us got to spend the right kind of time with people. You have to go home after class so you don't see people on a daily basis outside of class. I started at my new school as a sophomore so I missed being part of a freshman class and knowing everybody in it.
I would suggest to you to try and find the time to join a club (or two). Try not rushing home so fast? I'm sure you can move around your schedule a bit to accommodate at least once a week. I wouldn't suggest moving onto campus because at this point many people will be dorming with the people they already know and you could get stuck alone or with somebody you don't like. I recently joined a sorority and although it hasn't totally fixed how I feel, things do seem to slowly be getting a bit better and I feel like I'm part of something bigger than myself.
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