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Fiance's Small Penis
My fiance has a very small penis. It does not go inside of me. Though we tried just for once still I can tell we have tried like forever to get it erect and hard still he could not insert. It was not my first time and I was totally both physically and mentally prepared to do it and was completely wet so it was not my problem but what I think is it was because of the very small (nearly like a female thumb) size of his penis. Also he was not lubricating properly. It was his first time so I think he was nervous and I was not able to excite him and he did not have the full arousal.He tried to penetrate me for several times but failed and he was shivering and sweating abnormally. I got terrified seeing his condition. Still while playing with my body he ejaculated. It seemed the semen was thick and normal though. But I am shocked and worried together having seen the size of his penis and disappointed also. Don't know why having these thoughts that I can not get pregnant and satisfied with him. I could not tell him but its killing me inside. He may get hurt. I was physically not satisfied also went to dipression. It was kind of embarrassing for both of us and we did not even discuss about the whole thing afterwards. He got fever also after the incident. What should I do?
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According to the latest Ansel Research Survey; the average male penis when erect is between 5.1 & 5.9 inches long.
Keep in mind that this is the average, the middle between the largest and the smallest, above the micro-penis (below 2 inches in length). The survey states that size varies based on age, time of day, level of excitement and ambient temperature.
What you are born with is what you have. There is no way to enhance, or enlarge a penis even with surgery. Penile surgery is usually done to assist those with erectile dysfunction when there is no other medical solution that will help.
Average Vagina Size
Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch
Aroused
Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches
Men with the smallest penis can and will get a women pregnant as long as they ejaculate in the vagina.
I assume you love your fiancé. As it says above you cannot make his penis longer. What you can do is take his performance anxiety away. He knows he has a small penis and he is very concerned about satisfying you. He should be able to as his penis, if as you say is the size of a female thumb, is larger than a regular tampon.
Sex is a learned activity. By that I mean we all know the mechanics of it. Its what we don't know that is the cause of the anxiety. Intercourse is the end game. Arousal is the game the fun part. You need to teach each other where you like to be touched. How you like to be caressed and what foreplay excites you. Do you like oral sex. Do you give oral sex.
He may have been sick when you first tried so you should try again. I would suggest that you do so without any goals of intercourse just get use to being naked together and touching one another removing any anxiety he may have.
Since he is a virgin show him the different parts of your vagina. Do you know if you are more clitoral in nature or more vaginal in nature. There are many women who can not get excited vaginally and must have their clitoris stimulated.
A complete physical for both of you is also in order complete with STD screening. Then I would also suggest counseling with a qualified sex therapist. This is a psychologist trained in the area of sexual dysfunction.
A small penis does not mean a poor sex life. This is something you are know concerned about but something he has been concerned about since he learned his penis was for something other than peeing. If you truly love him you will help him past this I assure you if you do you will have the sex life you want, as well as the family you want and you will never have to worry about him looking elsewhere for sex.
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If there was fever afterwards, then he was sick that time you were trying and he couldnt get hard.
ED issues are enough to make it difficult for a man to perform. The more problems ones having, the em barassment or whatever compounds the problems.
Men with smaller peniss can get females pregonant.
As to whether she will feel satisified depends on other things besides size. The vagina general length before aroused is only around 3 inches or the length of a tampon. So since you're engaged to be married, this is something to see a couples counselor about.
One way to do this is to discuss both of you having wellness checkups before marriage. This way both of you can be screened for STDs and sexual well health. He can be screened at same time and you might let Dr. know of any of your issues.
If he has a smaller than average penis, he already knows it and its likely why he has problems, more due to what he is thinking, of disappointing you, the worries alone can shut down ability to get hard. If getting erect would solve the problem than you own it to your selves to mention it to him to talk to a Dr. Nothing can be done about the size but maybe some education on what can be done to have success at being erect will solves this. If he's a decent guy otherwise, you owe it to each other to try everything possible to help.
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