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Im still not convinced
Hello again ; i'm the girl who asked yesterday's question in generalFWB sex questions( the FWB story); i just wanted to tell that i am in second year of college, and i am coming from a religious society where sex outside marriage is forbidden, which i am also convinced with, then, he used to call me when he wanted men but when i used to call him, he used to refuse and say that i cant have him when i want , it was kind of a one way relationship, ans stuff we did was kind of extreme in m country and religion,then , i want to add that he used to give me fake hopes that we caan make it out,but he was just lying to me, making me feel low like telling me that u are nothing to me, u give me love but i wont give it back to you, , we ended up when the last time i was with him i felt completely no pleasure , maybe cz we wanted more(sex i mean), and when i called him to sort it out and discuss n try again he just refused, ironically, telling me that i just cant bcz i dont want, my real problem is how to move up, and should i totally neglect him, cz i love him, and he charms me easyly with his words, and im sure i dont wanna do it again, what should i do please?
I really appreciate your help and count on it.
Thanks
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I stand by the advice I gave you yesterday. I will add that this relationship is well below that which is made in heaven. That being said I can only suggest to you as to what to do. In the end it has to be your decision.
This is not the type of relationship I believe you need to be in. This guy sounds to me what we would call a player. A guy that never commits to any one girl but wants them committed to him for his pleasure when he wants them. This is not a loving relationship.
You don't say where you are from so I am not aware of any custom that says you must marry by a certain age. Those are old fashioned customs anyway in this day and age and a women should be able to search for a man that will love and cherish her. Not a player or an abuser.
You should have several more years of school left before you finish college. You will meet many more boys and men in that time. As my mother would tell you there are many more fish in the sea so bait your hook and go fishing again. I'm suggesting you throw this one back and enjoy the fishing there is no rush to find a husband.
There are many societies that preach sex before marriage is a sin or that the women must be a virgin on her wedding night. Given the number of out of wedlock pregnancies around the world I am left to wonder how many of these societies actually practice what they preach.
I'm not saying you should go against you religion and have sex out of marriage. In fact I admire you for waiting. What I am saying is should you find a time where you want to have sex before you marry, based on statistical information of world data, I would say not to fight yourself over it and go with your feelings as the data indicates many more people are having sex then will admit. Just make sure to practice good birth control. Also make sure this is a guy you think you could make a life with.
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