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Boyfriend and i have major compatibility issues
My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years but it's been very rough. We fought on and off and it has caused quite a few tears in our relationship. I'm not one to believe in Zodiacs but he's a Capricorn and I'm a Gemini. Every website I've been to has told us the road will be difficult. I'm more of a talkative person and I see life quite different than him. Hes very overprotective and quiet. I love to communicate whereas he doesn't mind being quiet on the phone allwhenever we have a chance to speak to one another. The problem is that it's gotten so bad that I think we've both come to the realization that we've both turned into people we're not from the constant fighting we've endured. Part of me doesn't want to give up because I put so much hope into him. However part of me feels like I'll never get what I want in this relationship. I'm 24 and I don't want to be branded by being associated with him. Clearly I can't have the best of both worlds but letting go is going to be so hard. What do I do?
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You seem to be more worried about how people will think of you for dating him than of him and his needs. The sentence you wrote about not wanting to be branded either temporarily or long term by being associated with him leaped out. I think you are more worried about you than him to be brutally honest with you.
It happens with people that they get involved with someone who turns out to be the wrong fit for whatever reason and they reach an impasse or don't know what they want. It has happened here. If you have tried to repair things a multitude of times and can't move forward with the relationship maybe it's time despite hope and effort to say this isn't healthy for either of us and cut losses and be fair to both of you. You may emerge friends from it. Why should either of you remain miserable?
As far as astrology goes and him being A and you X it's more for entertainment than anything else and i think you get that. The same goes for web sites. People can be helpful to you as can articles etc. but deep down you have to go with your gut and what it is telling you about the relationship.
However, start focusing on what he needs in the relationship overall and from you as a partner as I'm seeing a lot of what you are concerned with needs wise and less of how you have tried to make it work with him and what he needs out of the relationship. It takes two people to have reached this impasse. You both have to explore if it's worth continuing something that keeps getting worse. Unless there is a way to work it out with counselling, someone mediating or both of you hashing through what both of you of you need to make this work and ding that than you may have to walk away from an unhealthy situation.
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Love should be easy if you're perfect for each other. And it's not because you two are different. There are a lot of people who are different but still manage to accept each other's difference and work it out. If you two can't, maybe you're just not meant for each other. And I think deep down you know that too. But sometimes your mind needs more time to accept what your heart already knows. Just follow your gut feeling and if it's telling you something's wrong, then definitely something's wrong.
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