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How can I be less sensitive?
I cry all the time, and it's really embarrassing when I'm around other people. For example, if I get even a slightly bad grade on a test (like 85%), then I'll barely be able to hold back tears. The same thing happens when someone makes any sort of negative comment toward me. Is there something I can do about this? I don't think I'm really 'insecure' or anything, I'm just really emotional and I don't know why. Any advice..?
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Seek out a therapist to talk to about being overly sensitive and emotional without legitimate reason and or over insignificant things. It's definitely a lack of faith in yourself and inability to let negativity not bother you. Consider the source of the comments before letting it trouble you for a second.
Also, 85% out of 100 is a mark most students would kill for as it's quite high. When it comes to grades don't be a perfectionist or place undue pressure on yourself. Do your best and be confident that you did all you can. Do not scoff at marks but use the comments given by teachers to turn around and kick butt next time.
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A lot of times, we get emotional about things because we subconsciously believe something. For example: if you are skinny and you believe you're skinny; Then someone calls you fat, you're not gonna get upset about that because you consciously and unconsciously hold the belief that you are skinny. So their words don't affect you. So if something bothers you, its because subconsciously you agree with them and that makes you feel bad. Take anorexics, they're skinny but believe they're fat. So anything towards them related to them being fat will make them feel bad. Even if its not true, but their belief makes it so. Although in their case, its not just subconscious.
So yes, you are insecure about some things. We all are. Nobody is perfect. Don't be so hard on yourself for getting a less than perfect test result. Going through puberty would also make you more emotional.
You need to learn to not take the opinions of others personally. That's just their opinion. You might have the same opinion about them. There's a really good book called "the 4 agreements". I think it will help you immensely with you becoming too emotional.
In the book, it talks about that words are like magic. You can use your words to bless someone or curse someone. Negative words towards you (or others) are like black magic and can affect you negatively IF YOU LET THEM. 2 of the agreements are "don't take anything personally" and "don't assume". You can see how different things would be if we didn't take anything personally. Be it the negative opinions of others or some kind of failure on our part. Assuming things can also be very bad. As in assuming this person thinks this or that. Then we get upset over something that may or may not be true. So don't assume either. I'm sure you can find the audiobook online, maybe even youtube.
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