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hi, my name is kate and i have a "friend" we've been bestfriends for 5 years, she's always made me laugh and smile but also cry, mostly...she's been ugly since her childhood but i didn't care, now she's kinda pretty and she says she has a great body, but in reality she has a belly, no hourglass figurr and a hip dip, i'm not saying that this type of form is bad, she just says things that aren't true, somehow, she has been liked by a lot of guys, they were saying perverted things about her, and know she has a boyfriend who is from another country and is a singer(john robert rimel) and his real name is different in georgian ( i live in georgia the country) she also describes her life as a comedy-romantic-teenage movie and it seems so unrealiatic, she is messeging her "boyfriend" and shows me the messeges, i've never seen her boyfriend or other friends in real life, she makes me cry, she makes me angry,self-concsious,makes me feel ugly, unrespected, next to her my life seems like shit, she always says sarcastic things and praises herself from her "boyfriend's" facebook, that makes me cry, praising herself while i felt prettier than her before it all started, she also lied about one direction being her bros, it was of course hard to believe, but ahe used sign language of a confident person, she talked in details and somehow made it believable, it's like she's manipulating me, then she said it was all a test, if she acted so great at a test, wouldn't she lie to me to this day? she's very manipulative but sometimes she's an energetic, kind person who gives great advice,or makes me think so, if i tell her that i don't want any relationship with her, she will cuss me out or tell me that she doesn't care, it hurts me, but if i don't do that,i wouldn't be able to move on with my life, it'z very hars to me to make friends, because i'm different, i'm 13 btw, i don't want to feel like shit again,i don't want to be manipulated, but she's my neighbour and it would be awkward to end it like that,what in the hell should i do?
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Its one thing to stop seeing a friend but you also mention she is a neighbor so if living on the same street next door or someplace across the street, it will be hard to not see her. You may want to remain on a friendly basis with her but not remain so close.
Actually, for the age, both you and her are typical teens because at that age, we all go through it, wanting to be liked and having lots of anxieties and often low self esteem. I know I sure did and so has any adult I've asked about their childhood and teens.
Her lying or exaggerating to make her life seem so much better is part of low self esteem. Lots of this stuff goes away as we get older and mature. Right now, she's just wishing she had a better life or thinks she wants the one she makes up all the time in her head. IF she can put a whole detailed life together in her head and is good with words, it might be a good idea for her to keep a diary and write a book, maybe one of her life as a teen. Whether true or not, it may be fun to read. As for yourself, if you feel you really can't stand her anymore, your schedule would need to appear very busy and full to have a solid excuse to tell her you don't have any time for her. One way to be busy is having other people to see also. HOwever you say you have a hard time making friends 'because you are different'. That to me is a second situation to be dealt with. If you want help with how to make friends, write another question and explain please, maybe give examples, of how you are different and why you believe that to be holding you back from making friends. I'll agree it isn't always easy at this age and I never had many but I had a handful at a time who were true friends who never treated me crappy. You deserve that too.
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