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My friends hate each other and I am caught in the middle
I am a female middle schooler. My friends from my soccer team hate my friends from school and my friends from school hate my friends from soccer. Anything I do or say is like I am picking sides. If I do something with one group the other gets mad and calls me a trader. But I made a stupid decision and I trough my school friends under the bus. I say I am sorry and ask for they are mad at me and they say no but then the other people from my friends from school say they are. I don't know what to do because I want to keep both friendships but I feel like I lose either way.
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Trying uniting both groups and talk to both groups all together.
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If they don't like one another than that's not your problem to stress over because you cannot control it. However, you don't have to put up with their bullshit either. That's not fair of them.
Be friends with whomever you like or if you have tons of friends ditch the ones causing grief. Tell them you hang out with A,B & C alone because they don't like D, E, F and have done all you can but if they give you garbage over it than cut them loose due to endless aggravation. They aren't acting like real friends or worthy of you now are they?
As for your stupid decision and throwing people under the bus I cannot help there. You didn't elaborate on what you did. I know you don't want to loose either side and perhaps you won't have to but you have to get across that this behavior is pissing you off and you're not picking sides.
You have better things to do and if you loose them over this than it's prime indicator the shouldn't be in your life. Don't be afraid to lose any of them for you might be better off. They're walking all over you. You need to roar a bit.Let them know they are important but are really getting on your nerves with this and to look up the word traitor while at it.
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