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Just tell him? What to do about him, us?
My boyfriend and I have been arguing about random things lately now and then. I sometimes feel that he is trying to find an excuse, I don't know why. Recently he just asked me about my car, and what year it is. (Its a mercedes s550 2007). He drives a VW Passat. I feel that he thinks he is always in competition with me and sees me as his rival instead of companion. I told him I don't think a person's car or what they have is what should be important but the person themselves. I said I don't ask about your car or your business. We had fought about my previous car as well, as he wanted to use it for a few days since I am no longer using that one. Well that didn't work out, and he ended up renting one and kept taking photos with it and even tried to race me. This seemed childish to me coming from someone in his late 30's. Anyway going back to today.. I feel like he is always analyzing me and trying to figure something out from my answers. Shouldn't the woman be doing this? Anyway, today he asked again and I still did not tell him, I asked what does it matter, it doesn't matter for me. He said it does because it defines your personality and if you don't tell me what year your car is then who knows what you won't tell me later on in life if we get married. I wrote back if it's something important of course I'll tell you but unimportant topics like this shouldn't matter. He went offline. We have been seriously thinking about marriage soon but how would it be if we happen to argue lately about everything and our minds are very confused. I just don't know what to do, and should I tell him my car year (aka feed his egoistic curiosity). I don't know anymore. Thank you...
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I know how frustrating this is. I totally understand where you are coming from. Sometimes these things are important to people. Maybe you should feed his ego and see where it takes you. If something as simple as this makes him a better boyfriend to you then so be it. The only issue I see with this is how he will handle things when you are in a position where you have something "better" than him. In that case maybe you can remind him that you guys are together and you share your successes together. It's time to try something different.
Please don't take this as you are doing anything wrong because I feel that I would react the same way but since you love him it doesn't hurt to test out some things so you can learn. Relationships are tricky and the more you learn about your partner the better things will be for your relationship.
Good luck!! I hope this rough time passes quickly!
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