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i need advice on getting over someone I liked for five years?
How do i get over someone that I liked for 5 years?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
There's a popular but true saying going around, that "People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime." The whole explanation of what this means can be found at this link:
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Just because a person comes into your life for a short time when you may have hoped or thought it would be a lifetime, doesn't mean that what feelings you had for the person would be any less.
I personally believe a big key to being able to move on in life without someone is to focus on the positive memories and also a step further to contemplate what possible reasons there were behind being only in your life for a reason or season but not a lifetime.
I'll share a story of my own to elaborate.
After a divorce from an abusive husband, I started dating again. Met a guy who was separated from his wife. We fell in love. After a bit over 7 months, he broke up with me but not without crying his own tears. He was torn. HIs wife wanted him back and asked that they try again and since they had the longer history together and grown kids together, he decided to go with her, even though he was in love with me.
To say I was devastated would come close. I was shaky and my adrenaline was rushing full blast for about 3 days after hearing that, I couldn't sleep well, no appetite...depression. I took some time to pray and reflect on what good I could take from a situation that didnt look like there was any good in it. Once I decided to stop focusing my thoughts on the negative aspects, the positive ones began to fill my mind. The biggest one was that this guy used to be a counselor and as my boyfriend, he drew on that knowledge to help heal me in those few months. I was straight out of an abusive marriage that lasted 30 years, so I had lots of coping mechanisms that would be harmful to any other types of relationships, not just a romantic one. He was patient and gentle as he reminded me when I slipped up on falling back into bad habits. But I did heal. He was in my life for a reason, to help heal me from the aftereffects of abuse.
If you can look at your situation like that, perhaps it will help.
PS: In case this is more about someone you crushed on but never had a relationship with, focus thoughts on the positive things you liked about them, and don't settle for less with the next person, looking for those same important good traits and hopefully even better ones in the area where the other person may have been lacking. This is actually what the process of dating is all about, not just the fun and games thing.
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Hello.
Here is my advice: You need to accept that there is no sense in "getting over" people. People will come and go throughout your life. This person that you like may not be the one for you. However, there is something special about them that has touched you. Embrace that.
Psychic prediction: If you follow my advice, you will not ever fully "get over this person". They will always be special to you. That being said, five years down the line, you will know the meaning of true love. You will still appreciate this person that you like now. But, you will be in love with someone else. However, if you do not follow my advice, you are likely to develop a drinking problem and surround yourself with a series of meaningless sexual partners.
A word of caution: I am a psychic. I tend to be correct in my predictions. However, as with all predictions, there is room for error. Please proceed with caution.
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