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Self hatred
Well i am a very confused soul. I am at my mid 20s and still don't know what i really want from society. I am a chubby girl with polycystic ovarian syndrome and so i grow unwanted facial hair like men. I suffer from multi mental complexes. Everyday life is like a hell to me. When i go public people stop and ask what is wrong with me and give wierd look. Previously it used to feel so awkward and i used to avoid sunlight and go out only in the evening. But then i thought its me who i am, what god makes me and not the society. My femininity does not depend upon my look. So i cope with the problem created by my own mind. But then a guy proposed me over social media unknown of the fact of my hirsutism. I have not met him face to face yet. But today or tomorow i am sure that i am gonna meet him. He praise my beauty and personality and my feminine traits. But when he will see me face to face i think it will cause him a real shock. I am scared of my masculine flaws and have started to hate myself. I don't even have enough money to go under cosmetic procedures like laser treatment to get rid of it. What should be my approach now?
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Do not put too much stock or hope in a person you haven't met and do not allow ANY man to define who you are or whether you are a valuable person. You must be comfortable with yourself first. It's hard work, and sometimes you don't always fit other people's idea of what you should look like or be like. What YOU think and feel is what is important. Build that relationship with yourself and you will find that the right person who appreciates you will be much easier to recognize. Again, be VERY cautious about people you met on the internet. Meet them in a public place and take it EXTREMELY slow in getting to know that person. Any suggestion of a proposal to someone they haven't met is HIGHLY suspicious! Don't buy into this!!!
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I once felt this way along my lifetime. I am insecure but trust me when I say that you should do anything to change yourself unless it is you. As for that guy you have met, well, I do not think that your looks will matter to him if he truly loves you. If he changes his mind about the proposal for that reason go up to him and give him a good slap or whatever to knock some sense into his brain. One last thing, I suggest you spend your money on something more important than cosmetic surgery. hope this helps.
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