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Should I care about my girlfriend's sexual past?
Hi
I'm 23 and my girlfriend is 25. We've been together for about 4 months and she is awesome. (beautiful, kind, loving, punctual, interesting, and physical). She knows how to be a lady when she needs but at the same time she still is willing and frisky when we have sex.
I don't know why but lately since I've been getting more emotionally invested her, naturally, more insecure. I never straight up asked her how many guys she's slept with, but I know for sure there is at least 7 (including me.) 3 of them were long-term boyfriends, the other 3 were either hook-ups or short-term flings (I never asked her for the details). There could be more, but I already know for sure there's 6 at least, other than me.
I don't know why but this has been bothering me SO MUCH lately. I myself have slept with only 1 other girl besides her. She says she started dating guys when she was 18. I'm somewhat afraid to even ask her to give me the exact number because I'm afraid of the answer. It could either be the only guys I know of (6 of them), or it could very well be 20... I have no clue. Honestly, my best guess is around 10. I want to know, but at the same time, I don't. It's been driving me absolutely nuts lately to the point I'm bottling up my true thoughts around her. She has no idea I'm thinking this, and thinks we're all good.
3 guys were her actual boyfriends so it doesn't bother me. But the idea of her giving it up so easily any other time just makes me sick. I want to think of her as a beautiful and respectful woman, not just some "girl" who's looking to jump in bed with any guy.
Please help me because she truly does have many qualities that are amazing. I don't want to lose her, and I feel that battling this personal demon of mine is going to eventually destroy our relationship, and it's been heading to only positive things so far. Any advice would help. I appreciate it.
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In this day and age it is not unexpected that we will all have a sexual history. Why a girl’s sexual history should be held against her; when a man can have a long list of girls he has slept with and not have it held against him. I'm assuming you have a sexual history as well.
I love my wife have loved her from the day we met. I never asked her how many men she slept with or she asked me how many women I slept with. We eventually told each other though it never really bothered us one way or the other.
We have no control of the past only the future. You say you are "getting more emotionally invested her." If this is so forget about the past. If you have done the proper thing and both been tested for STD's and the HIV/AIDS virus; then forget about the past. Live for today, tomorrow and start planning for a future with her if this is what you want.
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