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Italy question
Hey. Thanks for answering my question. To answer some of yours, my parents wouldn't be going because it's too hard for my mum to get consecutive weeks off work due of the nature of her job. My father hates the heat, and the part of Italy we would be going to would be hot. As well. It's not his side of the family, and he doesn't talk to his family period, so he doesn't understand what it means as much as my mum.
My parents have saved up a rather sizeable chunk of money for me for my university, probably enough to pay for most of my undergrad, especially if I get scholarships. The reason they want me to get a job is to get experience and to gain maturity.
I was leaning towards Italy, but it's still hard for me to decide because even though my grandparents live on less, they support my uncle entirely, and they help pay for my cousin to go to university as well. The tickets to go to Italy would be roughly 2000$ for a round trip, which is quite a lot.
Another little problem is that I don't speak italian, so I won't be able to talk to my great grandmother much. I speak french and English, so I can read italian, but speech is not going to be possible. The only person who speaks both English and Italian is my grandfather (my great grandmother is his mother)
I don't know, it's a rough decision to make. I do want to go, I do want to meet my great grandmother, and the entire half of my family I've never had the opportunity to meet before, but I'm worried that I'll also be disappointing my parents? I'm sorry, I'm a mess.
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If the only reason is to gain work experience, I still don't see what 3 months before going to Univ. is going to be much experience that will help once you graduate. Students with some work experience in the field they are graduating in will be considered before others, cus frankly..it looks good, like you are serious about working in that vocation. Now if your parents are more for just wanting you to work as learning responsibility type thing, well maybe you would but I feel 3 months is just getting your feet wet and I still don't see a big enough thing of experience gained for that.
If it makes you feel any better, perhaps once you graduate, you could promise to pay the grandparents back for the plane trip in chunks. What you would spend on car payments could go to them if it makes you feel better and from what you say, it would probably help them. Even if they say no, you can find ways to help them out financially.
As for work experience, it becomes much more important and to your advantage if during your last year in Univ. you find a part time job in the field you will be graduating with a degree for. A non related job for a few months before schooling won't have the same impact.
I can already tell that when you do graduate and have to take on responsibility of finding your own job and keeping it and pay your own bills, you will do fine. Your concern about possibly dissapointing your parents tells me you already have a level head on your shoulders. Some young people in HS or just graduated who work just a fast food joint job do well because they are like you, others, no matter how much work they do at a job, at that age, it doesnt necessarily change who they are. I work at fast food and I have seen lots of young people who are my managers and do really great and others who come in and are gone in 2,3 months because they never learned the kind of basics growing up that would cause them to take pride in their job, think about others and their feelings and being helpful, etc etc... You sound like someone with the basics already taught by your parents and so no matter when or what you apply yourself to, you will do well. good luck.
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