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I'm too shy!!!
I really want new friends because my old friends were kinda jerks but I'm not very good at starting and keeping on a conversation. HELP!
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People like to talk about themselves so ask people things that can't be answered with a yes or no. This way they can tell stories about themselves or share things they've heard or seen.
Find common ground in a conversation opener sentence.
If in the same class, same teacher, ask what they thought of the teachers new hairstyle, how they did in a certain test.
If at the store going thru sales racks and another person is there, hold up a top you like the style and color of and ask, do you think this looks good? Or I like this but its not in my size, can you keep an eye out for one in such and such size.
Oh let me see what you have picked out.
Once you get a response to your initial sentence, try for any story you know that may be remotely related, like the time grandma was with you at the sale rack and something funny that happened.
The next best thing to getting a person to talk about themselves or share from their vast array of personal stories, is to get a person smiling or laughing.
You can compliment a person but be sure it is genuinely how you feel cus If you say you just love her shoes and she does become a friend and remembers that, what do you do if she gifts you a pair when you actually hate it. Always be genuine with compliments and yes, its okay to compliment strangers, they are only people you dont know or havent befriended yet.
Sometimes I share real stories and sometimes I will take a little truth and add to it, never mentioning names of others but always try to tell a story that is funny.
The objective here in starting and keeping conversations going is to give the person a good chance to find out if they like you or not and want to be around you. People like to be around others than make them feel good. So if you make them smile and laugh, ask them to tell their own stories and talk about themselves, and compliment them, about 95 % of people will react positively to that and want to continue talking with you and being around you. The very few who don't are just the hermit types who dont like getting close to anyone. Leave them be and dont feel bad if you do come across someone like that cus its their choice of lifestyle and its not you or something you did.
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