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I'm a horrible mess!
Hi, I AM A COMPLETE MESS, I don't know how to explain it, I'm 12, and, ok, I can't believe I'm actually going to write this, but... So, about a month ago I started noticing a zit in my, face, I tried to ignore it but I just can't, and then about 2 weeks ago, 3 more zits started appearing in my face, and now I have like 6 zits. I have 3 in my forehead, 2 in my right cheek, and 1 in my left. I'm worried more will start appearing. I know you're probably thinking it's natural, but, you don't get it, I used to have a flawless face, like a barbie face, and I'm not exaggerating, not just like a normal little kid's face, it was PERFECT. And that's not all... Ugh, so, here comes the part I couldn't believe I'm actually writing... Sooo... I'll just write this quickly and get this over with... ithinkimightbegettingmyperiodsoonbecauseisearchedonlineandihaveasymptomthatiamgettingmyperiodsoon. ok. I always knew that day would come but I never thought about it. And I still don't want to. There are sooooo many things, but that would take me lots of books to write about, so lets just say that the main question is... ugh, i don't like that word so I'll just write it quickly... howdoidealwithpuberty?? Oh, and, obviously, I'm female.
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I have 3 daughters and all had flawless skin until puberty hit. They didn't even like their picture being taken cus they thought it looked so bad so we used photo shop to erase them. Wish it was that easy in real life. They are all now in their mid to late twenties and their faces have cleared back up. When I was a teen though, I did not get zits. However I do get a few occasionally as an adult if I eat too much of certain foods. If it was hereditary, I would think the girls would have had no problems with zits. I tend to think that the fact I now later in life get some at times has to be more due to something in our environment and in our foods that contribute to people getting zits. But it is of course worse with puberty and yes, your period is probably about to start. I am sure as hard as it is for you to write on the subject to strangers, that it would be even worse for you to ask your own Mom questions. If you ever have a real medical issue related to puberty, then you might ask Mom if she had similar or same issues as a teen. But for most all your questions on your sexuality, sex and dating, there is a great you tube channel geared for that. Its called sex + and created by Laci Green who is about 26 right now and started researching as a teen herself cus she couldn't or wouldn't dream of asking her parents. But what she shared is true, very informative and she has done the legwork of researching and talking to experts to share very important info. I know this won't help with your face, you need to see a dermatologist to learn whats the best way to treat your face at this age, and it may not go away totally until you get older but you want to learn to eliminate scarring or allergic reactions and such.
I am not sharing this link for Laci's you tube spot to promote having sex at this age but there is much helpful things to learn on periods, and products for that, what cleaning if any is necessary, and topics on the hymen, gender id, dating and so on. This saves you having to do all the research yourself and as someone elder, I find it informative and have actually learned something about some of the newer period products on the market now, even tho I no longer use em. Heres the link for you to watch and learn. Each video is short, and very entertaining as she is funny but you still learn.
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Welcome to womanhood. The zits most likely are part of Puberty and the hormones being released into you and not due to oily skin or clogged pores. You can try over the counter skin cream to deal with them. If that doesn't work then you will need to see a Dermatologist for stronger medication. It is also possible that once your body adapts to the new hormones the its will go away.
As for dealing with puberty that is a very individual thing. First of all understand like it or not we all go through puberty boys and girls alike. Each of us react differently to the hormones being released. Most of us have no problems with puberty and just go with the flow. Some of us have mood problems and others become depressed.
Depression is a part of puberty that your great grandparents call a phase that their children would grow out of. Today we realize it is a real problem and doctors can deal with it and help you with it.
What is really important about puberty is being able to talk to a parent about how you feel. For you I would feel talking with mom is the parent you would most closely identify with. Remember mom went through everything you are going through and will go through. Again remember this is a natural occurrence we all go through.
When your period does arrive do not be embarrassed about it, it is a natural part of growing up for you as a young lady. When it arrives tell mom so she can help you take care of yourself properly. It is normal to feel somewhat depressed when your period arrives, if the depression last longer than that you should talk to mom and arrange to see a doctor.
It is possible that should you become depressed you will feel like hurting yourself. Possibly cutting yourself. DON'T PICK UP A PHONE AND CALL 911 THEY WILL SEND HELP.
I cannot stress enough that puberty is normal and everyone experiences it differently. Of course we are always here to answer questions but mom should be the one to answer questions for you as she knows you best.
Since you have written to us I will suggest you talk to mom, ask her for some mom and daughter time,, maybe away from the house and any siblings just the two of your where you can tell her how you are feeling and she can hopefully allay and fears you have.
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