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Deal with the most annoying dogs ever?
Long story short, about 6 months ago my parents kicked me out because they didn't want to "enable my depression." I stayed with my real dad for a couple months, but was having panic attacks because he's... a piece of work. So my boyfriend of 2 years said it was okay to move in with him at his parents' house. With nowhere else to go (I was unemployed, my summer job ended) I moved in. It's been stressful, but I'm staying here only having to chip in for a bill or two while my boyfriend and I save up.
Problem is, they have the most annoying dogs. They're small, and bark nonstop. Not kidding. They get spoiled by the mom. She doesn't care when they climb all over her when she has a plate of food. They get a "oh hush," when they go into a barking frenzy. If I accidentally move something in my room and make a noise, they start barking. If they're in the backyard, they're barking. My boyfriend's black friend came over the other day and the dog came up and was savagely growling and about to lunge. He only backed off because I herded him away and he scurried off. No one else would do anything. I'm amazed at how misbehaved these dogs are. I can't leave the bedroom door open or they'll come in and piss on everything. And they've only gotten worse. The only discipline they ever get is from me, because I don't think it's cute when a dog climbs on me at the table for food. They know to stay away from me, but the house is so loud that when they bark I swear it's 3x louder. I get over stimulated now, to where I start having a panic attack because there's so much noise (they also babysit a spoiled toddler that screams every 30 secs.)
My boyfriend and I want to get married soon, but we want to be in a good place financially before then, so we can have our own place when we do. To do that, we need to get good jobs and keep saving at his parents', but at this point it's starting to affect my wellbeing, staying here. Work is extremely stressful, as is home. My patience is worn thin, and irritability fuels my anxiety. What can I do? I'm at my limit. I don't think I can stay with anyone, I'd have to get an apartment, but my bf doesn't want to leave his parents' house (we're 21 so it's not that crazy). Ugh. What can I do? I'm trying to lose weight and get ahold of my depression and was doing well but I can only take so much. Any tips/advice would be MUCH appreciated.
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YOU can't change the facts of whats going on at his parents house. I know the alternative choices dont seem to be there but no one is holding you captive to staying there. So you and boyfriend need to put your heads together and try to figure out any alternative to a place to stay and of course, getting jobs now is of critical importance to change your situation. Even without depression, any normal person would get stressed and go nuts in a place that is chaos 24/7. I have a relative like that so I know how this may be stressing you. If you have any income and might be able to pay for renting a room in someones house for real cheap, then I'd try that. Of course I am talking about any and all people you know which means putting aside any pride and just telling everyone who does know you of your situation and see who is able to help put you up. I did this when I decided to leave my ex who was abusive. I told any coworkers I could think of even those I didn't know as well, told the pastor, any other relatives, even those who are distant, any friends, even ask your friend's parents who know you. Living in an unfinished basement or spare room for a while has got to be better. Its also incentive to work harder at saving up to get into your own place. I've lived in my van for quite some time and had discovered how much I can really do without when it comes to money inflow even minimum wage, vs what I spend outgoing. If you want your own place bad enough, you will go through the uncomfortable and hard hoops to get there. Thats what I've had to do and it is more possible than you might think and it isn't stressful compared to the only alternatives left to me. I hope you come across someone willing to help you out.
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