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Do I keep hoping or give up?
I am thirteen years old . I have developed feelings for my guy friend. He is very kind and smart. He is very talented in many ways too. I have liked him for almost 3 years. Then I have been recently been informed that I had cancer. it wasn't severe but if not treated it would develop rapidly and will increase the chances of me dying at my teen years. I didn't come to school for a few weeks. Now, I am back. I planned to tell him that I like him but all those weeks I was gone he and one of my best friend started dating. I was happy for them but there was a feeling lingering in my mind and heart to give up on him and on life. What should I do?
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hello dear, i'm the one with the question for step brothers haha and we are of the same age! i'm from sg and u are?...i understand your feelings, really messed up. have you ever asked yourself if its worth it to give up on your life for a guy? i was once madly in love with a guy and he's not popular school, not really good looking but i just fell in love with him however he doesn't really give a shit about me. i cried over him for 1 year, every night i pray to god that i will soon forget about him but its impossible, i was really depressed that i sashes myself everytime to get over the pain in my heart, despite being 12 then i drink alcohol at times and cry myself to sleep. i'm sure you are in a dilemma weather to tell him the truth. just wait for a while more, make sure the timing is right and then confess to him. try asking your best friend if she really loves him, of course she would say that she does, observe her actions and the way she treats him.. u may not believe this but babe you'll find someone much better than him really soon all the best
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Listen I want you to live on I am 14 I what doesn't kill you makes you stronger you fight and find someone better for you, someone that I good enough for you. And if he does become available go for it because middle school relationships don't last long and yolo(you only live once) but I hope reincarnation is s thing.
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The worst thing you can do in battling cancer is to give up on life. My wife had breast cancer and I am convinced that the cure for cancer is 90% attitude. You have to maintain an attitude that you can beat this disease.
It sounds like you two were never an item or in a relationship. Given that perspective I would say you should not be upset with him or the other girl. Right now the last thing you want to do from my prospective would be to tell him how you feel about him and maybe he would ditch your friend for you; maybe out of pity because you have cancer or are recovering from cancer.
Since I'm old enough to be your grandfather let me give you some grandfatherly advice. You are young just entering your teen years which are a wonderful time of life. You are to young to tie yourself to one young man. Rather you should be experiencing dating with a number of young men. This is how you find out the differences in men. You will find out what you like and what you don't like in a man. Then as you get older you will refine your likes and start dating men who exhibit those qualities you like until finally you find the man that has most if not all the qualities you want in a life mate.
Look at dating like shopping for the right prom dress. This is an off the rack work. Most of the time you never pick the right dress with the first one off the rack or in the first store you shop. It is the same with dating few if any girls or guys marry the first person they fall in love with or have feelings of love for.
If you don't believe me ask mom and dad how many people they dated before they found each other. For me when I met my wife I must have dated at least half a dozen different women and that does not count those I dated in high school.
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