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Am I imagining signals?
There's this guy in my jazz group who I'm definetly getting feelings for. I'm not certain he is at that point, but these past few rehearsals I feel like we've been making a lot of eye contact. It almost feels... electric. I can hardly stop looking at him, and (though I might be crazy) I think I'm not the only one stealing glances. Lately it just seems like my eyes find his across the room. We chat amicably too, more so than usual, but he's friendly with everyone (including a few other girls in the group)... What do I do? We're almost on a break for summer, and I don't want to let this pass me by. But I don't even know if I'm just imagining things, and don't want to risk messing things up.
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Tell the boy that you find him attractive and like his vibes. ASk him if he likes you. It's really that simple. If he says yes, be you. If he says anything besides an immediate yes, move on.
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Humans have the ability to sense when someone is looking at them or approaching them when our eyes are not facing that direction. Call it part of the animal instinct for survival in the animal kingdom. ITs part that too for humans and a couple extra seconds may save your life. But for humans, it may be a signal of more such as an attraction to the other. Though when the giver of glances or chats is the exact same friendly with everyone, it becomes really hard to tell if they are flirting or simply interested by too afraid to take another step. There must be a certain level of attraction there cus I hardly think that once a person discovere who is staring at them, would encourage that person by continuously looking at them if they were not attracted. They would at some point early on have begun ignoring the sense that a gal was looking at him. wouldn't you do the same if you found a guy looking at you but were not even remotely attracted to him, maybe even repulsed...you wouldn't give him the time of day by repeatedly staring at him, isn't that right
So right now he's shy or scared to approach you cus he's wondering the same thing as you, whether he's imagining signals. When young and inexperienced, it may be hard to spot body language that may give more clues so the best thing is to take a leap of faith and just ask if he'd like to exchange numbers and keep in touch and would he like to plan right now a time to hang out together. Don't leave it unfinished with a lets get together sometime cus it may never happen if both of you chicken out with second guesses. It is only because one person ever reached out to let another know they have an interest that there are any couples around in the world today. If no one ever made a move, then the whole world would be single. So if you dont want a summer of what if thinking, take the chance. He might say no but then you'd know and wouldnt be left guessing. But if he says yes, who's to know how great this may turn out. Yes, girls can make the first move in this day and age. Its actually quite normal for todays times. So ask him to hang out with you and set a date.
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