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boyfriend is too shy or may i say not normal
i know being an india girl i must follow some rules and regulation to be a "good girl".but comeon its 21st century and i am an educated urban dudette..still my conscience and family background root my mind into a deeper cocoon of ethics and morality..i think i am balanced in both ways..problem is with my boyfriend. he is in a foreign country,pursuing PhD, where "free mixing" is cool. but he still behaves like a typical indian old school guy..to him talking about sex is also illegitimate, or should i put it like this, he is too shy even if i use the word "kiss".. i like to fantacize him but he is too far both physically n mentally from this idea..though we are going to get married next year..ours is a long distance relationship,commenced only half a year, i admit its too early to talk of sex n all, n when its like we haven't met yet face to face..relationship is digital but the bond we two share is not virtual..i am a human being and sometimes its my body needs to feel the warmth of another human being, if not by physical touch but at least with the notion of it..so i start talking and he feels shy and assures me of his urges n stamina n he changes the topic of discussion.. n i feel so embarassed.i wonder if he is not normal or too generous for me.or is he impotent!! what should i do to unveil the mistry of his parahumane behaviour?provided he won't give it a chance before the nupital knot takes place.
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The real question is if the relationship is what you want for a long term committed marriage. IF you can see yourself in a passionate, beautiful, soulful relationship with this person for the rest of life, then totally wait and be patient with him. If you do not feel that deep connection yet, I can guarantee you that marriage wont suddenly switch anybody's attitude or personality. So, it really isn't about sex because the sex will be amazing if you hold out for the person you can see a deep connection with forever. I promise if this person is the one you can see yourself with forever and you can see yall being madly in love, then you can definitely wait a year and it will be everything you need and more. If not, take this as a sign that he might not be the right fit. So maybe that's why the conversation hasn't gotten to sex or just a deep intimate talk. Good luck!
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Hi there ))
I am not going to comment more about your boyfriend's attitude towards being open minded on being physical over phone. All I can tell you is that, every individual is different.
I am afraid, your decision to get married based on a 6 months virtual relationship, scares me! I am not at all saying that you both are not meant for each other, no, not at all! We all are different and we all have our own priorities, likes and dislikes. Most relationships and marriages break because the topmost 1,2 or 3 needs we value the most in a relationship are not fulfilled or missing. You need to give yourself and him some time to know each other more, face to face. Go out together, feel the feeling being with each other. According to me physical compatibility is one of the most important things in any relationship. If 2-3 most important needs of the partners in relationship are satisfied, it's easy to ignore the remaining not so important needs. But in order for you both to know that, you have to first meet and spend some time as if you were together.
Anyway, I kind of got charged up with I read your question and thought I wanted to comment on this. Feel free to contact me, if you need more clarification or if you have doubts at my email address.
Much love .. hugs ))
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