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Girl I like has a lot of guy friends!!!!
Hi my name is Nick and there's a girl that i like in the grade below me at school (were already good friends). I'm 14 and in 8th grade, and she is 13 and in the 7th grade (age difference doesn't matter to me considering my parents are 6 years apart from each other). I'm planning on actual asking her out in high school but my problem is not that she's in a grade below me, but that she has a LOT of guy friends. She has more guy friends than girl friends! So that means it is almost impossible for me to tell what she feels or thinks of me. She does like to mess with me like occasionally grabbing my things and making me chase her for it or occasionally poking my shoulder, you know to mess with me. So if you have any advice on how to take care of the guy friends problem and even on how to make her interested I would appreciate very much. Thanks!
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At that age, women are seeking validation especially if she didnt have a good father figure in her life. Most of the time, women have a lot of guy friends because they didnt have such a good relationship with their dads and dont get along to well with most girls (typically because they get so much attention from boys). Just sit her down and talk to her. Tell her how you feel directly. Let her know that you like her. Make sure you dont like her because everyone else does or just because she gives you attention. It can be tricky! But just seriously let her know. If she isnt interested, let things play out. Sometimes people might be shocked initially and then come around later. If she truly doesnt like you, you will be able to tell eventually. And if she does like you, go for it! Good Luck!
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If she is friendly and messes with all the guys who are her friends, you can't then count on how she pays attention to or flirts with you. You will just have to ask her out.
Sometimes a person of one gender is drawn more to people of the opposite sex for friends rather than the same sex. The same goes for guys who can have mor female than male friends. My husband and I are both still like that. So as the other advice giver said, that is quite normal and nothing to worry about.
If she's already promised to date one of those guys, she'll let you know. But if every guy is feeling unsure or intimidated and none has asked her yet, then she is available for the first one who has the guts to ask her out.
I've heard that sometimes the most popular girls have tons of friends but never get asked out simply because she's not asking the guys out, and the guys are too worried and scared to just ask her out. If she messes with you then she's already interested at least at the level of friend and it could be more. If she was repulsed by some guy, she wouldn't be paying him any attention. The reason why humans don't pay attention to those they don't like or those they aren't attracted to in some way, is because to do so might encourage that person to actually ask the other out and then you are stuck having to either be nice and go out but more likely will be faced with how to turn down the person. So people don't encourage others that they don't like as either friend or possible boyfriend.
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Hey!
Does it matter if she has a lot of friends that are guys? I mean I have a lot of friends that are guys too, it doesn't change how I feel about the person I like. Just because a girl is a girl does not mean she is required to hang out with just girls.
The best thing to do is to just tell her how you feel or ask her out to a school dance, or to hang out!
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