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Girlfriends mother not allowing me to see her
This is very new to me ,so let's start with I'm a girl (20) and my girlfriend(21),me and my girlfriend started talkin back in highschool and hit it off we now dating for 2 years 6 months ,so one time stayed over at her house and then after I left her mother said to not see me again,that was 3 months ago ,we were supposed to go on a date next week when it was mentioned to her mother she said that she needs to stay away from me...I'm a good kid I guess studyin my 3rd year in uni ,great grades respectful...why is she making this so hard on both of us...just wanted another person point of view
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Ok, first off im sorry your going through this. People parents can get really weird ideas about others for some reason sometimes and then draw on those ideas and then end up coming to really weird conclusions when none of it is true what so ever.
Also if it IS true, then try to remember that this might not even necessarily be about you specifically. Sometimes people act shitty because of things THEIR going through that actually have nothing to do with you. Totally unfair and stupid I KNOW but this is how people who live more by their emotions can be.
Also (and i know this is terrible to mention) but is there ANYWAY what so ever that your girlfriend could be making this stuff up so that she doesnt have to see you anymore??
I dont want to make that kind of leap but i only say this because shes an ADULT and if she really wanted to do something she would FIND a way to do it and not change her mind if she loved you and was determined enough.
Heres MY take on it ok. Even if your girlfriend DOESNT have a propensity for lying, i would ask her why doesnt just ignore her mom, fight her on it, and tell her that shes al adult and that while her mothers opinion DOES matter to her that its still HER choice weather or not she wants to hang out with you or not. This is not a choice that a mother should be making for an adult child. After 18 or 19 i would say as a parent you pretty much have no say (or shouldnt) over who your childs friends are but it IS important to hear that parent out and judge for yourself weather or not that opinion has any validity to it and then make a choice separately of that.
How did your girlfriend tell you that her mom said this stuff? is it all just from her mouth? also how did her mother act when you WERE there?? was she pretty friendly and inviting? or did she stay an another part of the house the whole time and hide like she wanted nothing to do with you?
If i were you i would tell your girlfriend that maybe YOU and her mother need to talk about this face to face and have a calm, adult conversation about how shes feeling about you and her daughter being friends. Ask your GF if shes lying because if she is nows the time to admit it and that all can still be forgiven but that if you have to come over to her moms and talk to her and find out that shes placing blame on her mom and just SAYING "my mom doesnt want us to hang out anymore" then your going to be very upset.
Ive have this happen to me before and trust me, they came clean when i told them that i was willing to come over there and speak to their parent myself, in person, and ASK them if they had some sort of a problem with me. One time i did it and the "friend" admitted that she DID lie and that she just didnt like confrontation. Although i was the bigger person and forgave her, i still chose to walk away from the friendship but told her that i was glad she told the truth and that its never fair to lie like that and say their parent said some shit they didnt say.
Another time, a friend of mine didnt want to be friends anymore so she told her mother that i was doing things and saying things that ANOTHER friend of hers that i barely knew was saying and doing, and when i talked to the mother she acted like i was the horrible person until later when she found out that it was THE OTHER GIRL and not me. lol.
Manipulation is a huge thing in family dynamics sometimes so you need to make sure that this isnt the case because the story sounds off here.....
good luck!
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