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I got into a big argument with my mom recently, and she hit me. I am 13 and this is the first time shes ever really hit me and I don't know what to do. She struck me with the belt on my hand and leg. Although, I kept screaming and pushind her back saying it was abuse. Later, when we were relaxed, we talked it through and she sologized for hitting me saying she hated doing it. The hits left welts though, am I being abused? Even though it just happened once? She admitted she was wrong for hitting me and everything, but am I being tricked?
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In a very technical sense of the word Abuse; yes your mother did commit child abuse. I say technically because she has only done it this once and probably feels worse than you do.
You did not say what the argument was about so all I can say is something was said or done that caused mom to lose control. It may have not been fully what you said or did but the culmination of things leading up to your argument.
Given that which you have written I have to ask why you think you are being tricked? Is it because mom lost control and hit you? If so give her the benefit of the doubt that she is sincerely sorry for hitting you and that it won't happen again. If there are other reasons why you are feeling this way then I suggest you discuss this with a trusted teacher or your school principal. If they feel you were abused they will report it to the proper agency to intervene on your behalf.
A parent is allowed to discipline a child as they see fit. When it comes to corporal punishment the law is quite clear. A parent may spank a child and that spanking is to be applied to the child's butt only, which may be bared for the spanking. Most states only allow a parent to use their hand to spank a child and no other instrument such as a cane or a belt.
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Why do you feel your being tricked?? has she hit you or done something to you before and then said sorry but then turned around and did it again?? did she not seem sincere when she said she was sorry? these are all things you need to ask yourself.
What i would do is try to ask her to talk to you about what it is specifically thats bothering her. Did you do something you KNEW you wernt supposed to be doing and she asked you before to stop and you did it anyway??
If a parent is having a bad day and they are running low on patience then i could see how this could have been a last straw sort of situation happening, because she obviously felt bad about it LATER and even said she was sorry.
Parents have bad days just like younger kids do (not that im defending or trying to justify what she did) but if she comes home or you come home and know someone has had a bad day it might be best to just be kind, and supportive of each other instead of doing what you both would normally do. Family members learning to kind of stay out of each others way sometimes is something that is learned and is important when you all live together.
Try to see if you can open up a dialogue with her and get her to communicate with you more often so that you can judge where she is mentally and that will tell you if shes not having a good day and then you can judge where to go from there.
Sometimes parents need help too and arent as strong as they appear to be. They have flaws, make mistakes, and have bad days just like the rest of us, but if you think shes a good person, she was really sorry, and you want to try to make things easier for her then you should do so.
good luck ; )
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