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can a separation make a relationship stronger?
Has anyone gone through a separation that made their relationship better? How were you able to get past the issues that caused the separation? What made you decide to work things out instead of move on? How were you able to get past the hurt? Did you feel like everything was worth it in the end?
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I think it really depends for some people it doesn't work out in the end, and for some people it does, and they do learn a lot about the experience. To sum it up, it's all about the decisions you make along the way. I hope this helps! Good Luck
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While I haven't gone through this situation, I am very close to people who have. I can not recall any who found that a separation solved any issues they were having before the separation.
In wanting to be of help to my friends, I have done research on the internet for info and in reading books on how to have healthy relationships, troubleshooting stuff, do's and don'ts and how to resolve issues. There are some basics of human behavior of how to go about even bringing up an issue to ones partner let alone what the couple tries to work thru it together.
Together is a key word here because the issues may be important to one and the other doesnt see it as an issue or is lazy, or not wanting to admit there are problems. Its hard enough to look at ourselves and see our strengths along with shortcomings. So in a relationship, we may think we know what the issue is but it may only be one symptom of a much deeper root issue. So my advice that I gave friends is, if you want to try to solve it together, then both read up on the internet and read books targeted at helping couples resolve issues and if after that you find it still isn't helping, then its time to just go for couple counseling and see if the stranger can spot the true issues in your relationship and help you both move on to solving them.
A relationship works best if both are putting in equal amounts of energy and work to make it successful. In my case, I was the one who made the relationship hang in there and he wasnt willing to admit to the root issues and go for counseling so at one point, I left him.
If this doesnt help you, we may need more info with examples as to what you see going on. granted I'd have only your view, not his on whats happening, but sometimes others can see the obvious that the rest of us are blind to in our relationships, even in a one sided story.
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