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im trying to get the attention of a bisexual girl
Hi I'm a bisexual 15 year old female, and for the longest time I've been attracted to another female friend of mine. I've tried to explain to her but that went wrong in ways you don't even want to know, so I was thinking about getting together a bunch of her favorite snacks for valentines day but I need to know if that sounds to forward. I guess I should also explain that said girl also has this thing about also dating girls from Canada and also has a strong belief that she is fat. (Just in case that helps)
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Since adviceman said all the important things I would have addressed, I'm only going to say that everyone has a different love language, five basic ways people like to be treated that translates in their minds as being loved. What people do wrong is assume that the way they like to be shown they are loved is the same way someone sees it. So if you feel loved when recieving gifts and for her instead, it is words of affirmation, or quality time, then the gift giving won't register as you being attracted to and having feelings for her.
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Then again, you are already friends and I would think that like my own friends, sometimes, knowing things you like, if they think of it or see something they know you'd love, its no big deal to recieve a gift from a friend. So if you
are hoping to get some kind of message across to her that you are interested in her as more than friends, while a nice gesture, I don't think she's likely to translate recieving a gift of favorite snacks on Valentines day as anything significant. But I could be wrong. You know her better than I can ever guess.
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Before I answer your question let me say something about label's. Be careful about labeling yourself especially about your sexuality at this young age. Labels tend not to be understood by people your age and you could end up being hurt. To label yourself bisexual could be to some your gay or a homosexual and lead to be being gay bashed.
Fact is at you age you are more likely to be sexually experimenting then bisexual. For reasons I and other adults do not understand young people your age are in a hurry to grow up and put labels on things; especially their sexuality. You have plenty of time to declare your sexuality. Now is the time for exploration and finding out what sex is like with someone of your own sex does not make you bisexual. It makes you a normal teenager.
As to your question; given what you said about things going horribly wrong and thinking you may have declared yourself as a bisexual. Then I'm going to suggest you back off for now. She may share your desire to experiment or think herself bisexual but unwilling to declare herself as such. If you have declared yourself to all then being with you brings her out something she may not want to do.
This has nothing to do with her belief that she may be fat. It may have everything to do with how she wants her sexuality to be seen for the time being. If you have declared yourself to her then what I suggest is a slower approach. If she thinks she is fat giving her some of her favorite snacks would be the wrong approach. IF she is not really fat then explain to her why she is not.
People who see themselves as overweight when they are not are borderline for eating disorders to lose weight. By talking with her and helping her to see she is not overweight you could very well keep her from harming herself. You would be making a better friend in doing so and you could find out at some point why when you first told her about you being bisexual it did not go well. Then you can decide how to proceed from there. It is a longer way to go but a more trusted way.
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