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I don't get along with someone all my other friends like
I always hang around with the same group of people. But there's this girl who began hanging around with us recently and we don't get along. I get along great with most of the group except her and she gets along great with most of the group except me. She always insults me but never insults the rest of the group. I don't want to lose friends. How do I tell my friends that I find her annoying?
I am a 12 year old male ( the group of friends consists of both genders)
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Hmm, tough situation. Girls at that age are going through the hormones of puberty and unlike with guys, their hormones have a great bad effect on their emotions. They become more easily irritated or extremely sad, but the anger part is the stronger emotion and in teen girls is most often directed without cause at other close females such as girlfriends, Mom or sis. But I suppose that since she's close to this group, she's chosen you to pick on. Just know its not likely that you are doing something wrong, just more like a personality clash. Some people you meet and instantly like and others you just dont even want to get to know. This means more likely a person is picking up on vibes from a person that their subconscious mind responds to and says, I like or don't like. Since this group is a mix of girls and boys, there may be other girls who may soon become somewhat touchy or unreasonable emotionally soon themselves in other ways. Some of us can hide it well or control it. If she has female friends in the group, you might ask any of them if they think it seems she picks on you and insults you but doesnt do it with the rest of group. You might even ask if they know she might be acting like this cus of something you have unintentionallly done. If they haven't a clue, you may have to ask her yourself. Let her know that you have noticed that she insults you without picking on the others. Ask if you've done anything to bother or hurt her. If theres something, apologize and attempt to at least be social to each other in the group. If theres' nothing, ask if you remind her of someone she doesnt like and remind her that you are not that person. Other than that, the only thing you can do is change your mind set to one of feeling sorry for her that she is such an unhappy person that she needs a person to use as her venting for all her stress and unhappiness. If you can put yourself in her shoes, then perhaps you might gain understanding of why she does it and that alone might help you to not let it bother you as much. Dont try to get the group to choose sides, just try to get along with all. Remember, there is no reward to her if she gets no reaction from you like the ones she expects when insulting. If you smile and say thankyou or yes, you're right. It won't be any fun to vent on you any longer and she'll likely seek another source to dump on.
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