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rules about being 18
This is not a personal question, just a general enquiry because I am curious.
So it is against the law for a guy over 18 to sleep with a girl under 18. True?
So what if a guy is like 5 months older than a girl. They are both 17 now, and they have slept together a number of times. Totally legal? and then the instant he turns 18, it's illegal? and they have to wait 5 months for her to turn 18 before they can do it again? How does that make any kind of sense? Or am I misinterpreting something?
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Sadly it shouldnt make sense but there will be so many exceptions to the rule that people will manipulate.
If your parents are aware of the person you are dating it should not be an issue. It becomes an issue if it is reported.
In my opinion I would lay low for 5 months.
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The law that comes into question here is the law covering the age of consent. The age of consent differs from state to state and many states raised that age to 18 to be in compliance with the no child left behind law. This made it harder for a student to not legally drop out of school before they become a legal adult without parental permission and even then it was harder to do.
In the technical sense of the law, even at 17, you may not have been not legally able to consent to sex. The only saving grace is he too was under legal age and the effect of the law is different. He would not be charged with statutory rape. That all changes when one of you turns 18.
The answer to your question is: Yes you would have to abstain from sexual intercourse until you turn 18 for if anyone objects. Say your parents found out, if they are not aware. They could report him to the police. Whether he is charged with a crime would depend on the factors found by the police upon completion of an investigation.
One of those factors would be how the law is worded in your state. The law in a sense is a living breathing thing and it adapts as society changes. Because of the sexual freedom that began back in the 60's the law has adapted to allow a window where someone over the age of 18 can date someone under the age of 18 and assume sex is taking place provided the difference in age is no greater than a certain amount of years. This window varies from state to state.
My best advice is to do a search on the age of consent law for your state. Depending on where you live there is very good possibility you and your boyfriend can continue as before. Before you do it is best to make sure the law is on your side just incase someone decides they want to make trouble for you or your boyfriend.
Being ignorant of the law is never an excuse in a court of law. Given that we can find the applicable laws with a few strokes of a keyboard. It is well worth the time to investigate and be knowledgeable of where you stand by the law.
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well i think if its well known that youve been together for a WHILE, and your only 5 months apart then unless someone else objects then its really not an issue.
Even if someone calls the police, once theyve spoken with the two of you and others around you, and know that you just happen to turn 18 in a matter of months before her then i dont see a problem.
maybe it depends on where you live though....Usually even if a cop comes to talk to you and you both SAY "well we were together before this, were only a few short months apart" no one WANTS to make a huge deal out of something thats really unneeded.
My now husband is 7 years older than me and it was reported and they spoke with both us AND my family and everyone knew and no one objected.....*shrugs*
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