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One night stand!
26 female
I have been dating this guy on and off for 2 years now and I have loved him ever since we started dating and the last time we broke up we decided it was for good because of his work schedule and today he called me asking if I would agree to a one night stand and without thunking I agreed and now I am feaaring the possible of pregnancy and I thinking I am about to make a mistake this is suppose to happen tomorrow at 1:00 pm help.
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Its understandable for a healthy adult female to want a sexual outlet, even if its not with someone with the potential of becoming your mate for life. But a friends with benefits thing is best done with someone who is not an ex. Females tend to believe that thru sex they can win the love of a guy while it doesnt work quite the same way for him. To break up over a work schedule doesnt mean that the two of you don't get along fine though. So your situation may be an odd one.
I do know that work load was the reason my 2nd husband didn't go on a dating site for a long time, and once he did, he thought it would be for just some light social dating, not to find his marriage partner cus he thought with the little time he had to give a gal, that no one would want to get involved and it wasn't fair to the gal. If this is his thinking, remind him that the job he has now may not be what he's doing in 5 yrs or 10 yrs. We found that by my moving in with him, we were able to find and use the free time he did have to its optimum best and it worked for us until later his work situation changed, freeing up more time with me but by then we were married.
So I am wondering if this is more about why you two arent together, the actual reasons, vs worry of becoming pregnant.
By now, you've likely made a decision. If you have unprotected sex, go to the pharmacy and ask them to show you where the Plan B, also know as the Morning after pill is. YOu take that and it shoud protect against pregnancy. However it isn't meant to be used all the time. You need to get on birth control. I can see not being on it if not in the relationship and not wanting to fuss with daily pills for no good reason. However there are other choices, the IUD, intra uterine device, placed inside uterus, a one time insertion and it is good for something like 10 yrs. It is rated better than even the pill. The Mirena is a hormonal one but if that doesnt work or you prefer non hormonal, there is the copper iud too which I used and it worked quite well. Its so fuss free, You just forget about it and you are covered at all times, and still have your regular period cycles and you are ready for a one night stand, and whether you have a current boyfriend or not. You might seriously think about that. Once thats covered, then focus on finding what you want for a lifetime partner. If this guy isn't it, or he is no longer interested in you, then look elsewhere. Its no fun to end up someones sex toy, their outlet only when They are horny. What about your needs? Only if you can find a man who is in love with you and wants to make love, to please you first, see your needs met, will you have the right man. this guy may be a great guy but all i know is that he has wimped out on the relationship for a reason of not enough time, and then calling for a sex fest cus he's horny....did he ask if you've been horny? He may be too focused on himself to be a good candidate for your future. But it may be just an error he's willing to change once pointed out. It really depends on whether the guy just loves some things about you like people love about certain foods, music, clothes, or whether the man is in love with you. two years is enough time for him to fall in love or not but if he keeps breaking things off when the going gets tough, theres no permanecy to a future with him. Therefore, even just sex with him is futile if he hasnt grown up yet or may never do so. As long as he is ready to take the easy way out rather than work things out with you and have you in his life permanently rather than booty call which does not happen just once dear. I've had someone like that too. The call always started out with "What are you doing tonight.." which meant he was horny and wanted sex. I did that for a while until I found someone I could have a more full relationship with. So this is not likely a one night stand. It may be a weekly occurance eventually, or once a month but its easier/more comfortable/safer to have sex with someone who is a known factor rather than a stranger. So if you need the sex that bad, get birth control and go for it but don't count on it leading automatically to a commitment. It sounds like there are some things that need to change in his thinking and in his life before he will be ready to commit, no more breakups, for better or worse, richer or poorer, til death do you part as the marriage vows go.
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