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first time and like what is a cherry and all of that
Okay well to start I am 13yo and I just wanted to say u have had sex before but nothing happened. Now there is someone I am dating that is wanting to have sex but I am scared, because isn't there supposed to be a cherry or something that pops? isn't it supposed to hurt? I am actually really scared and I don't know what to do. I need answers and help. I just don't want to be judged for my mistake and want answers, PLEASE HELP😢😬😪
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Here's the best thing I know of to answer your questions, a short you tube video with visual prop to explain what a hymen is. This video called, You can't POP your Cherry" is just one of many sex education style videos by LaciGreen. I suggest you watch this one and save her site and watch all the rest. Going into new territory such as attempting having sex when you know nothing about it is about as crazy as wanting to drive a car when you have had no lessons on how to operate a vehicle, learn how it responds, knowing the rules of the road, etc... It takes some studying and preparing for everything you will come across in life. You can't be an expert and automatically know everything. There is also contraception to think about dear cus young teen periods are irregular and a female may not ovulate on a regular basis so she can just count days on a calendar to know when she is fertile and to avoid sex. Condoms only protect when a guy is wearing one and that is for intercourse which is the part you know as penis in the vagina sex. But there are plenty other sexual acts where a condom is not worn and there is always a slim chance of sperm in precum or an external ejaculation getting too close to the entrance of the vagina or transfered there by fingers, and that means there is a chance of pregnancy. So if you intend to be having sex at this young an age, then you need to study all you can cus schools don't tend to teach relationship or sex 101. You need to self educate. And my opinion is that Laci fills the void, when teens can't talk to their parents and their friends really dont know any more than they do. Laci has been researching and learning everything about sex and relationships since she started as a teen herself with this site. The videos are short and she's very entertaining and the info so far has been very true, helpful and I can't recommend her more highly. Please watch this one and the many others she has.
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No there is NO "cherry" in there thats pops. that is slang, or the street word for what is called you hymen.
This is a part of the vagina opening that stretches for the first time once a penis has been in you. But your hymen can also be stretched the same way if your into sports, and active.
For your first sexual experience make sure one of you buys lube and use LOTS of it because you will most likely be so tight inside there that you could actually hurt HIM! ((which is what happened with MY first time)) he will most likely have to make a few attempts to enter you and tell him to go very slowly once he has lube on his penis and a condom on.
I dont agree that your old enough to be having sex but your going to do what your going to do no matter what anyone says, so ill advise you to make sure he puts on a condom and not enter you without one one first.
The first time CAN be unpleasant, but lube can ease any pain there might be. You also should make sure your talking with each other and you let him know if you need him to slow down or to pull out and take a break.
good luck and down do ANYTHING without a condom and some lube.
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