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Dominant and Submissive relationship!
26 female
I am starting a new relationship and its going to be the dominant and Submissive relationship type my boyfriend is going to be dominant and I am going to be Submissive and I am trying to figure out some role play ideas
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Sorry but your wording has my mind spinning off in all sorts of directions and scenerios. Your choice of words 'its going to be the dominant and submissive' sounds like picking colors of paint to paint the living room. Not like its a desire deep inside that is part of who you are. So if I am right and perhaps he is Dominant and looking for a sub and/or both of you read 50 shades of grey and think its a nice thing to try just for fun, then you have a very huge learning curve up ahead. You don't just decide to do something like this overnight and have it work out for both of you. If one of you has felt like this for years already and the other hasn't but it willing to try, again it may work or it may flop.
When you say role play...those words make me think of this as just something fun to do in the bedroom, not like the subs and doms who take this so seriously it affects every aspect of their life. the dom deciding whether you can buy some new shoes or a new dress or not, when you can talk or not, etc. kinda like in the movie, making decisions for you, and you not having an opinion or choice. This is perfect setting for people who are control freaks and want to control the other person in all areas, not just in the bedroom.
For a gal to meet a new guy, not really know him as a person, his character and personality and whether you can trust him or not, is not the best scenerio for jumping into a submissive position. That takes trust which isn't there and takes a long time to build between 2 people so making sub and dom role play the first thing you do together may make the relationship only about that and it may not grow into a full fledged relationship. females are looking for a man who will love them uncondiitionally and have no eyes for anyone else. I knew a few couples for a while who were doing this and I stopped associating with the females who reminded me of the way I was verbally abused by my ex. He was mentally ill, but not into sub and dom. Just a controller. And the females I met had no opinions of their own, could't hold a convo with other people, like they were socially backwards somehow and also acted like they had no self confidence, and low self esteem, etc. I am not into the full sub and dom stuff or needing things bordering what I call torture and pain to have orgasms. So I am not one to advise on role play if thats all you will be doing as a change from regular sex. But I do enjoy us both trading off being the one in control one night. I also like the change off from choosing to do slow, soft, tender sex and the nights where we both go wild as if we haven't been together for a long time and missed each other, the hard grabbing, pull on the hair, hard pounding, etc...that builds excitement in a different way and we both take a night to treat each other to some wild hard sex. Sometimes, it is hard enough to hurt a bit on hair pulling or a bite is too hard. When it goes beyond the feel of intense to an ouch, we do say Ow and the other immediately lets up. As to what you do if this is just to spice up play in the bedroom, your imagination is limitless. What do you want to role play, something like him being the pirate and you the bar wench as he comes into port? And as a ship captain, he tells you what he wants you to do and you willingly do it? If thats the role play you speak of, its easy if you have a good imagination and its your dialogue between you that adds the excitement. Otherwise if you're more into tying up, chains and whips, etc...then I suggest you read up on what 'real' people who are into this do, check online for sub and dom clubs and start asking them questions and learning from several different people the variety of things very important to learn, rules and guidelines to have before plunging into this.
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