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How to be feminim?
I fall in love with a guy who loves feminim girls but I'm tomboy. How to be feminim and not tomboy?
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I agree with all adviceman said. Your idea of a tomboy may not be a problem at all. Keep in mind we all have our personal preference on everything in life from foods, colors, fashion, hobbies, sports to what is attractive in looks.
Sure, a guy may look more often at a female with a certain size chest or longer or curlier hair and lots of makeup but that usually only happens with males when they are young or if they really don't care as they are older about finding a female to commit to for the rest of their life. In truth, there are plenty of males who steer away from todays media version of what a beautiful feminine woman is. This means many enjoy women without makeup or at least makeup that is too obvious and the same goes for overstyled hair that would be ruined if touched. The less a gal messes with hair and makeup, the better. Think about it. If I were a guy, I know I wouldn't want to get kissy with her for fear of having her lipstick and foundation all over my face in clothes and her mad at me for ruining her makeup. I want to be able to play with her hair, run my fingers though it without worrying about messing up fancy hairstyles. The plainer, the better. Guys prefer touchable hair, at least in my experience and enjoy the scent that the shampoo leaves. Wearing cologne: another nono in my books and not needed to be feminine. Again, this is all something one puts on that doesnt change your personalilty or character. A light scent is great but keep in mind once wearing it, your nose gets used to it and eventually you can't smell it anymore and assume a guy cant either so you reapply several times a day. At that point, those with sensitive noses or allergies or who get headaches easily from any strong scent will not want to spend time with you. Clothing: wear what looks good on you and what you prefer to wear. Go for colors that support your own color makeup from hair to eyes to skin color. If you wear something cus its popular and the only color sold on the racks it may not automatcally look good on you. Its bad if a person notices only the outfit but not you. You should be noticed with the outfit.
As to how to be feminine, if you are not gay and a dyke at heart, then you are feminine. Every female has their own brand of femininity. Some are more subtle and some more obvious. nEver change who you are to appear to be something you are not just to get a guys attentions. If he doesnt like you as you are, then he's the wrong guy for you. That or he's really young, hasn't grow up past the rubbernecking at model type girls and learned yet what his true personal preferance is in a woman. So depending on your ages, that may be a factor, in which case, you need to wait a few years for the males to grow up a bit and learn what they like. Heck, I am 57 and still get appreciative looks from males of all ages wherever I go. Mind you, not all men see me this way, only those who like the natural look, no fuss long hair, no makeup and regular jeans and pullover and boots I wear this time of year. Thsts it. I am feminine and they don't even know a thing about my personality yet.
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It would help if you had included your age and why you consider yourself a Tomboy. Since you did not I will have to make an assumption to justify my answer.
There is nothing wrong with being a Tomboy. I have a niece who is 15 plays several different sports and although a high school freshman plays softball with a college team. She already has a scholarship offer waiting for her. Because she plays sports and exercises she is somewhat muscular and small breasted. Small breasts do not run in the family. She will wear a dress when appropriate though she does not look good in them. Is she a Tomboy? I don't consider her to be. I consider her an athletic young women like any other athletic women you might see in sports today. In her own way she can be very feminine but not like her mother or sister.
If how I described my niece fits a description of you then I would not consider you a Tomboy. Maybe you too don't look good in dresses. Maybe like her your more comfortable in slacks and blouses or jeans and t-shirts. There is also nothing wrong with a girl liking sports or playing sports be it for fun or somewhat semi-pro as my niece.
What I do know as wrong is trying to be something your not. You may become more feminism as you get older. We all change as we mature. For now to try to be more feminism when you don't feel it would be false and people will see right through you. This is especially true if you are a young teenager.
I could probably give you a better answer with more information such as your age and why you feel you are a Tomboy. What I have written is pretty much a generic answer. If you want a better answer you can send me a private message and I will try to give you a better answer.
For now though my best advice is not to try to be something you are not. This would be false and people who know you will see right through it.
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