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An ex-date keeps slandering my name online. What do I do?
This guy I went out with once and refused to go out with again keeps slandering my name online. After I told him I didn't want to see him again he harassed and internet stalked me for weeks. Now he's back to his old antics posting photos of me with my full name on dating blacklists.
Unfortunately I have a very unique name so when you google my name the only result that comes up is me and the fourth one down is the article about me being blacklisted. I'm worried this is going to affect future job opportunities. I already contacted Tumblr which is where it's being posted, but they can't seem to do much about it. If they delete his post he just makes another one a few months later. He never gives up.
What do I do?
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I agree with the other response to your question that you need to make sure to keep a record of everything he does even if you think that it isn't important. Every little thing counts. Also I know that it is frustrating and irritating but I had something similar happen to me and I can say that I looked at it from the perspective that clearly you impacted his life enough that he isn't ready to give you up and laugh at that. Clearly he doesn't have enough of a life to move on that he keeps having to bug yours. I hope that it gets better for you.
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Keep a record of what he is doing each time he does it, and keep reporting it to Tumblr.
There isn't too much more you can do. Some people choose to create more social media accounts at top sites (since these sites tend to appear naturally higher up in the search results). It is possible you'll find you can push his result down by doing things like joining Tumblr yourself with your real name, or buying your personal domain name. There are also services for online reputation management that might help you make sure that his links appear lower down in search results, but those can be costly. If Tumblr is being responsive and deleting posts, then you should continue to report the harassment to them.
Some states take this more seriously than others, so keeping a record is important in case you find you can, or must, go to the police. Stalking is a crime that can only be proven by consistant documentation, not by one off events, so make sure you are keeping a record of all of his abusive behaviours.
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