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Please Read and Help with These Ideas for Christmas Gifts
Hey, I REALLY need your help on what to do regarding these Christmas gifts. I'm sorry to treat it like it's such an emergency, but there's so little time before Christmas. Let's say I have two daughters who've both had babies over the past year. My oldest had a son named Lane and my youngest had a healthy set of triplets of all things. We're all going to be together for Christmas, so I want to get the kids stockings to put over the fireplace and I have just a couple of questions.
The first is about the names. Lane is easy and two of the triplets names (Aaron and Corbin) are also easy, but the other one is named Weston and we call him Wes. When I typed Wes into the box where it lets you personalize a stocking, it looked cute, but it also looked a little... incomplete for lack of a better word. I'm not sure it looked as cute as Weston did, so should I put Weston on the stocking or the name he actually is called by, Wes?
The second question is about the design. Let's say my youngest daughter and her husband want me to surprise them with the design and are so sweet and easy going that I know they'll like whatever they get. They said they'll be happy with the usual Christmassy designs (Santa, snowmen, Rudolph, ect). My oldest daughter's husband though is an avid hunter and fisherman. Avid is actually an understatement. He is obsessed with it. If he INSISTED that Lane's stocking had something hunting or fishing related on it, how would I even do that? I don't want to do that at all as it doesn't make a lot of sense. Not only is it not Christmas related, but I can't find anywhere where I can even design such a stocking. I'd go ahead and just buy a Rudolph stocking or something, but he's the kind of guy that'd throw it away if it's not what HE wanted, even if my daughter liked it.
So what should I do? Opinions on both issues will be greatly appreciated.
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We're talking about babes or young kids too young to have any hobbies or items of significance to them. Hunting items are fine if on Dads stocking as that is HIS favorite thing. With kids you have to guess if you want a theme. What I did for each my daughter is assign some animal as its Mascot for lack of the best word. I tried to go with something other than bears for teddys bears which lots of people give as gifts. The first was assigned lambs and got lots of stuffed lamb toys. The 2nd was assigned bunnies and she still loves anything with bunnie themes to this day as an adult, and the youngest I assigned elephants and also to this day, elephant themed items is one of her favorite things, not the top one but close. Have a talk with the mothers as dads usually aren't as good at the create a memory type of thing. See if they want to assign different animal themes to each child. I gave it some thought when it applied, using for clues the childs characteristics. The bunnies I see as a soft, gentle animal and the daughter had a gentle caring spirit. Its hard to see traits like this at so young an age so for me, I relied mostly on my intuition and got it right for 2. The one with lambs grew up to not like it. If moms won't go with an animal theme, then its up to you if you like the idea. Otherwise go with general Christmas themed Characters. Minions dressed as Santa, Snoopy in a Santa hat or other Cartoon characters dressed as Santa as good choices aside from Reindeer and snowman. As for the one husband you believe would throw away a handmade item you make for a grandchild because he doesnt like it, you are letting his attitude control how you act, live your life and decide to do things. This is wrong. I don't know how many examples of this you already have to believe it, but make the stockings as you wish, and if he throws them away, let him know that you don't appreciate the disrespect he's shown a handmade gift you gave to a grandchild. Its one thing that your daughter chose to marry a guy that sounds like an asshole, but you don't need to let him control you too. And I would pray for that daughter and his marriage, that whatever it takes for him to improve happens, marriage counseling, etc. or that if need be, she see's the light of day and leaves him. Sorry but he sounds like my ex husband. My 3 kids are screwed up in some ways as adults from watching him verbally abuse me all their lives til I left him once they were out of the home.
Put the full legal name on stocking. All parents shorten their kids names or come up with pet names. Theres nothing wrong with having ones legal name displayed, the one they will have to sign legal documents with someday, so a kid called Scooter or Junior as a nick name has a real name of William for example.
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