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omg middle school love
My friend lets call her kim so kim likes this boy lets call him jess so i told her that he likes her and so yesterday i called him chimichangas cus of something and then later on i told kim that i will dare him to ask kim out but he even admited that he likes kim and at afterschool i waved by chimichangas and so did kim and our other friend and he smiled and waved back at us and mostly looked at her i told her that is a sign and everytime he looks at her and today when i was eating popcorn he dropped it all over me and i waited for a moment and got the bag and droped everthing on his head and My friend started laughing and so did he so u think that they are a good match they pretty muchos hace stuff un common and i knw he tries to hide his feelings when he is around kim lol help
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Hon, in middle school, kids are only just beginning to notice and feel attraction to the opposite sex but obviously have little to no prior experience with the whole attraction, dating and even just talking to each other or understanding the opposite sex. Our middle school through college years should be a time of learning about all this and since there is no such thing as a class called Relationships 101, you have to learn by experience. If two people are too shy, or afraid of being rejected, or afraid cus they don't know anything yet and are afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing, then neither person is going to get any experience. Boys are really scared to make the first step. You'll find even adult men who are real gentlemen, may not tend to make the first move either to some extent. My 2nd husband wrote to me first on a dating site, but once we met, he didnt want to scare me away. I could tell he was interested but I had to make the first move to kiss. So if your friend likes him, encourage her to go talk to him, ask him to hang out with her. For you to be the inbetween person, attempting to force the two to get together, even tho its obvious they are attracted, isn't the best thing to do because in too many circumstances from older teens, the person delivering messages back and forth in some cases can later find themselves attracted to the same girl or guy and purposely say the wrong things on purpose to kill the interest and attempt to get the interest on themselves. Not that you might do this but you may have it done to you. Dont rely on friends talking to your male interest for you. Do it yourself. It really doesnt make a person look good if they don't have enough guts to come talk to me themselves. So when given a message someone liked me at that age, I replied, Tell them to come tell me that themselves. Its like reading celebrity magazines that make up all sorts of falsehoods and stretches of the truth about celebs. I wont trust those, only live interviews with the actual celeb. It should be the same even if its an interest in middle school.
The best thing you can tell your friend and remember for yourself when you find a guy you like, is to be honest but also ask the guy for help. Males like to feel needed and be able to help a girl and its the easiest way to be able to spend time hanging around a guy enough to decide if you want to date now or not. So here's what she/you say in your own words: Hey John, I am interested in you but really new at this and feel awkward as I don't know anything about boys and how to talk to them or understand them and such. I want to learn this kind of stuff and was hoping that since I feel attracted to you, you'd like to be the one to help me. I am willing to teach you all about how girls think and how we view things so you can learn with me.
This takes the pressure of asking first off the guy and takes takes away the fear of doing something stupid cus he doesnst understand girls yet.
I know of many girls who had a male friend who helped answer all her questions about what a male is thinking when he acts a certain way, etc. and along the way of asking advice about other guys, they both fall in love with each other because they are already best friends, are open and honest with each other and have good communication. Its a good place to start and guys love to have a mission, to help teach the girl they are interested in, what he means when he says something. However that only works if both are asking questions often and not just assuming they understood what the other meant. PUt it in your own words by rephrasing it and asking, Did you mean this?
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