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is this who i am or is is because of my situation and things may change/
hi
i am a 16 year old girl without any real friends.this is mainly because of 3 reasons :
1. people are self centered , selfish and really ignorant at times.. honestly no one is perfect but i find it hard to hang out with people because of the way they treat other(i know i sometimes fall into those categories at times)
2.my self esteem is low and i hate pics... i feel so uncomfortable with the cameras and mirror and also calling myself nice infront of others... i hate persons to compliment me infront others.... this is because i have acne ( a lot) my pores are large and my skin is quite oily...i feel so uncomfortable... i am told it looks bad but not sooo bad. trust me it is and facials help but not enough... i have avoided so many pics that i cry... i hate me to be honest...
3. i am ill tempered this is because of my acne i hate to have conversations so i brush everyone off and shout so that no one speaks to me.... i am tired of it ...
i sometimes wish i could have an entire dark room to myself so i can cry and not worry but i cant ... i have graduation in some months and i dont want to go because everyone will e wearing makeup with their perfect skin and i will have to weaer to conceal...... please someone shoot me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Did you have bad acne at age 5, 8, 11? And did you have low self esteem then, hate having your pics takens, hate being complimented, act ill tempered and brush off people?
Answer that for yourself and you'll have your answer to whether it is who you are or whether its due to your circumstances.
You'd know if you had social anxiety early on. I did from kindergarten on, I also did not like superficial friends, but kids and teens are not adults and mature yet and this is really all you can expect from the majority. There are though quite a few who will feel as you do, are looking for caring and true friends but finding them is not as easy because they don't stand out like the popular kids. They likely hide in the background like you do. Its up to you to look for these kids/teens and befriend them. Also, what you look like now is not what you're going to look like at 26 for example. All my girls had some acne and grew out of it by time they hit mid twenties.
As for the acne, applying stuff on the outside to make it go away is the very least effective way to handle acne cus its due to something being off inside your body. Perhaps, toxins don't flush easily out of your body, your diet contributes to the problem, it might be something hereditary, in your genes (ask the parents if they had bad acne as a kid cus i doubt they have it now) I know its a fact that all the changes due to being pregnant can cause a womans face to break out with acne. I had friends pregnant often same time as me and some had that issue. So I am just saying that to help clear it up a little more for now, you might ask the parents to allow you to see a dietician to ask about what foods can make it worse, and what things to eat instead. Perhaps there are certan vitamins and minerals your body is also needing. Most standard doctors know little of whole body health, meaning they look at just physical symptoms but not at life habits, exercise, diet, mental or emotional things that can add to a problem. I've had all over body itchy rashes that drs. couldn't treat because they were rashes caused by my extreme stress of having an abusive husband. A holistic or naturopath may have some helpful ideas. I have heard that perhaps facial massage including especially the lymph nodes to help drain away toxins is a good idea as well as changes to diet. I know if I had had acne while young on top of social anxiety, I would have felt as badly as you do. Acne is something that plagues young persons. You don't see it often on adults other than those in their early twenties or some pregnant women. So in time, it should get better. But even so, you'll still need to watch your diet. For me, even tho in my fifties, If I indulge in too much chocolate with the holiday season, the type of fat in chocolate will make me develop a couple of pus zits faster than anything even at this age. Talk to your parents about how you feel and that you want to try other methods than face creams to try to help clear it up. It may not all go away for now but you may be able to clear it up some. Seeing a dermatologist wouldnt hurt either.
My daughters got some acne, not bad but they hated pics being taken too. I promised to photo shop the zits out which I did so that whenever I showed a photo of them to friends, there was no acne.
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