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is he trying to see my reaction to what he says?
Hi, is he looking for my reaction to his behaviour or what, i do know for sure that he likes me and we flirt well more like teasing but he can be quite mean to me. we're friends. my question is when a guy says, 'she likes me' could that mean other way around just to see my reaction saying if i like him?
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I agree with Dragonfly. Friends are not mean to friends. And the old saying, "If he's mean to you, he likes you" does not fly with me. If he does like you, it doesn't matter. He probably wont get that much nicer to you or may treat you well for a while and then show his true self. Run far, far away. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect from a man.
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Friends aren't mean to friends. Thats not what I'd call a friend. So then it remains to be known, exactly what it is that you consider him being mean to you. A lot may be miscommunication, inexperience in dating or due to being a young age. But to answer your question, yes, guys and girls will both use the same tactic of telling the person they really like that someone else likes them or they like someone else to see if there is a jealous reaction. This for some reason is the way most young teens try to determine if someone likes them, by a jealous reaction. Thats not the best way as some people are good at hiding their feelings and reactions and it can actually push thier crush further away from them than work towards getting together. And that is probably the opposite of what he wants. Why wouldn't he come right out and tell you how he feels about you? Because he is afraid...mostly of possible rejection, even though you are friends, cus this is a level beyond friends, feeling the attraction needed to date each other. A gal can be friends but not have those kinds of feelings for their male friend. So he may not ever make the move and just do other things that you find irritating. So if you have an interest in him, go to him and tell him you like him and would like to know if he'd like to go on a date. I think many guys don't end up dating the girl they want cus they hold back. It doesn't make the guy any less a good prospective for a boyfriend...heck I had to be the one to kiss my husband first before we got married. He wanted to be feared scaring me away. Guys can be scared about all sorts of things like that so if the girl takes the initiative and starts the ball rolling, its more likely that two mutually attracted people will end up dating.
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