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what does he mean when he says this?
Hi, he's a work colleague and we joke and get on ok. but recently, he's been saying pointing jokingly,'she's in love with me'. what actually he mean? the other day, he saw me looking in the mirror and he said,'you're very pretty' i said thanks. he jokes heaps as we all know but about this certain things he should not be. so guys, what is he thinking?
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I can't be sure what he means since we are not there to hear them in context. I will say one of his statements could be totally inappropriate for the office as is the other if you find his advances in appropriate. If he is married then both statements are inappropriate for the are misleading even though you may be very pretty.
If he is not married then you could ask him if he is just an office flirt or is he interested in you. I advise against office romances for if they don't work out an you work in close proximity then one of you will most likely have to find a new job.
Regardless if he is married or not if he supervises you in any way his remarks are totally inappropriate as they could be considered sexual harassment by a supervisor.
The remarks themselves could be considered sexual harassment depending on how you perceive them to be. This is one reason why I say we can't say what he means since we don't hear them in context. The fact that you question his meaning tells me you may not want or like these statements or what him flirting with you.
If this is the case then you should go to his supervisor and report his statements as a sexual harassment. There are EEOC rules they must follow if you choose to make such a report.
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If you are attracted to him and want to get to know him and he is single and able to date, then I would ask him what he means.
Otherwise, if you really aren't interested in pursueing him, then ignore his silly remarks cus even if you did understand when he was joking or when he was serious, it makes no difference if you are not interested. I don't personally like people who beat around the bush and can never be to the point and say what needs to be said plainly and I know myself, that I might be able to stand it for a while, but long term in a relationship, a guy like that would drive me crazy.
If you're not sure if he's seeing someone or married (lots of guys don't wear rings or mention wives cus its a bad marriage or they are players)
then you need to ask if he's single. If he asks why you ask, its easy, refer to his flirting. "Well, with the way you are flirting, you come across as single cus if you were married, you'd be in deep trouble with your wife or even girlfriend. " And let him know if you are not into being the woman who breaks up another relationship. Some don't care. Some gals do.
He may have other issues, mainly shyness and not knowing how to have regular convo. with people so he covers it up with all his joking and flirting and may actually be a nice person under all that. Only way to find out is to start talking to him and learn more about him, to see if he's someone available that you'd like to date.
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