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Friend might really like me...what do I do!
20, female
Last January or February I hooked up with my friend (lets call him John) at a party, and neither of us ever brought it up later or talked about it. I thought that it was just because we were both drunk, but now I don't really know. My roommate was telling me how she always thought that John had a thing for me because he's always been kind of flirty, but I've always just brushed it off. I've noticed it, but I've kind of just ignored it or thought it wasn't that big of a deal.
A couple weeks ago, John had a small party at his house with a bunch of our friends. He kept flirting with me like usual, but then later we were sitting on the couch together and he put his arm around me. I was pretty tipsy at that point and was leaning on his shoulder, and he was like stroking my hair. Nothing happened that night, but then last week I saw him at school and he asked if he could come over to my place. We were just talking about summer and school and stuff for a little bit, and then he brought up last February when we hooked up. I didn't know what to do or say because that was so long ago, and I'm not really that good about talking about things like that. But basically he was like remember that one time, and then told me it was his first kiss. I didn't know what to say, so I was kind of just like ohhh aww.
I feel bad because I think I've been leading him on this whole time. Ugh I don't know. I'm scared that he actually really likes me because why else would he bring something up from over nine months ago? I can't stop thinking about it and him. I really don't know what I want or anything, and I honestly have no time for any type of relationship. I don't know what to do!
Am I totally just over-analyzing this all, or do y'all think he does really like me? What do I do? Because after we hooked up way back, I literally just avoided him for a month and that got me nowhere lol.
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You shouldn't feel guilty, if you don't have feelings for him, that's not your fault. It's been ages since you hooked up, and you never told him that you had any feelings for him whatsoever, right? So you haven't lead him on. You can't help it if you don't like him, and I'm sure he will understand that, too. Maybe you should just tell him straight up, or if you're not comfortable with that then give him hints that you like someone else or hints that you just see him as a friend. Sometimes people can think you're leading them on when you're not even trying to, when you don't even notice it - how can you stop or avoid it when you don't even notice it? It's such a complicated situation, but you can't be expected to go along with acting like this to spare his feelings or anything like that. Maybe he just needs the straight up truth, because the longer he leaves these hints the more awkward it will become when you try to be friends, or when you decide to tell him you don't want to be with him/don't feel the same way about him.
It does seem like he likes you, I don't think you'd bring up something that happened a long time ago unless you were thinking about it a lot,and he wouldn't think about it a lot unless he had feelings for you. The only thing left to do is to talk to him, because the sooner he knows the better. Good luck.
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