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Too Much Affection?? Kinda creeps me out...
Ok, so I have this friend. He's been my bestfriend since we were 12, and we're currently 16. One day, he went to the countryside and met his male cousin. When he came back, they texted as if they were lovers, like "Hi... I miss you... I love you". When I ask him, why would he say that, he always replies "He's my cousin. It's normal" I still feel like it isn't. Also, his cousin has a bad reputation, he lives alone at a young age, and his FB wall is filled with dirty stuff. My friend, on the other hand, is basically the kindest person I knew. Gosh... this is really weird to share...
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So whats happening here is that your mind is jumping to conclusions. When we allow our imaginations to just run away and come up with lots of negative or distorted possibilites and scenerios, of course its gonna creep you out. But you are causing this to happen to yourself. Dont worry, you're not abnormal. Most humans think negative weird thoughts more often than they think positive ones. And it seems to take a dozen positive ones to cancel out one negative one. So when you start runing amok with your thoughts, try to catch yourself doing so and replace with positive thoughts.
As for you finding it odd that family are able to say things like I miss you and I love you, thats actually the way healthy familys are. You've grown up in a society that has grown more private and used to not showing emotions or a show of live and the falling apart of families. Thats not the correct way to be just because the majority you know are like that. Thats how it used to be in the past and still is for some. It feels awkward to you only because you are not used to doing the same. What does that say to you? Are you happy with how you are or does this challenge you to be more loving of family and friends. Cus really we don't know what the future holds and if fate will snatch a loved one away early, before we get a chance to show them our love. So its best to live life treating others as if today is the last time you'll see them alive.
Yeah, I've heard about males not showing their emotions. Lots of guy can be emotional, they just hide it, fearin
teasing and misunderstanding such as is happening with you. YOu're taking it wrong. Apparently your friend is a very well adjusted male who grew up in a home that is very stable and loving or at least affected him that way, and he has great self confidence and doesnt stop to worry or care what anyone else may be thinking about him. I used to worry like that, no more and I can say, its much easier to enjoy life if you're doing your own thing and not concerned whos monitoring you.
Also, its possible to love a person or family but not love what they do, their choices, their sin if any. The bible teaches that, to love the sinner, not the sin. So perhaps your friend has learned that as well.
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